Certain Mails Can Give You Tears Of Joy

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I’m sure every writer, once or many times in his or her life time may receive a mail from someone interested in his work or articles. I have received hundreds of mails of admiration over my writings. One of the mails I received recently touched me after reading. I decided to publish it…

As writer, there are certain things you need to keep in mind. You can’t please everyone. Many will like you and others will hate you, but don’t let those little impediments distract your attention or hurt your feelings.

Many writers or bloggers avoid getting into conflict with readers or try to write articles not to offend others, but at times your article will spark controversy, arguments and hatred, when you aren’t expecting it.

I had a big problem on LinkedIn’s platform when I wrote an article entitled ‘Why many Africans are allergic to reading? The aim of the article is to encourage reading, but it turned out to be an article which nearly caused my crucifixion or lynching by some Africans that find the article unsavory.

When you find yourself in such a situation, don’t lose your temper, remain calm and try to explain the significance of the article. You may receive negative comments, yet still be positive. You may lose some followers, but don’t let that bother you, because those that aren’t ready to learn, aren’t also ready to accept any explanation.

This one of my favorite mails last week.

Hi Joel

Just extending my appreciation of your work.  I have read some articles of yours and your interview with Magda Cristina Butucea.  It was poignant!  To know that we still have those who believe in the truth among the profession is consolatory.  I am what you will call a misdirected man (turning 50 soon).

I spent time chasing something I never believed in but thought it was the means to an end – the empowerment of Africans in Europe.  It was a delusion and spent time in prison through malicious prosecutions.  Like you, I loved writing since I was in my primary school years.  I helped write letters for those who could not read to their families who where faraway from their places of work.

I neglected this part of me.  I have decided to spend time doing it now and set up a publishing company with a focus on selling African literature and the creation of educational projects in the form of publications to help spread the truth about our history.  Once again, I am inspired and honoured to read about you.

Best Regards Chez Winakabs

NB. I give thanks to Chez Winakabs. I wish this article will encourage other bloggers or writers experiencing many obstacles to continue writing without ceasing. 

His Body Disappeared From The Morgue

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Aftermath of the serious headlong coalition involving two buses, which claimed ten lives on the spot, the fire service was called in to pull out the dead bodies from the wreckage. Identification wasn’t easy because of the state of the corpses, yet a woman identifies one of the corpses as her brother. He was an auto mechanic. His tool box which was with him before the tragedy occurred was found close to his dead body.

She rushes home wailing, to narrate the sad news to her mother and father. They quickly rushed to the scene but the bodies were already transferred to the mortuary. When they went to the mortuary, they saw their son’s body and the tool box among the items of those who lost their lives. It wasn’t a mistaken identity because Jame’s name is boldly written on his tool box. It was the saddest day for James’ family. When the family were leaving the mortuary, they went home with the deceased’s tool box.

When ready to bury James, they went to the mortuary to collect his body, but the body was nowhere to be found. The corpse has disappeared from the morgue without a trace. Their fears increased when they found out later at home that his tool box has also vanished. It was as if the mind is playing tricks on them but it is a reality.

Years passed, then one day, a woman from the village where the mechanic died, saw him working in an auto garage, in one of the big cities hundreds of kilometers from the village. “James, everyone thought you were dead after the accident. Why for a very long time you’ve failed to visit your mother and father aftermath the accident? The woman noticed something strange about James. Even though he didn’t give her an answer, she conluded: “Tomorrow I will tell your parents that I saw you here.”

When the woman went back to the village she quickly sped towards James’ family compound to tell them what she had seen. They refused to accept her story, asking if she is out of her mind, but she insisted that she is speaking the truth. The following day, they quickly joined the bus to where the mechanic is working but he was absent that day.

According to the director of the garage where James works, he received a message from one of his colleagues that he wasn’t feeling well and therefore will not be at work. Astonishingly, from the day James failed to come to work, he has never been seen again with his tool box. Is he going to begin a new life in another garage? Asked James family. The strange story remains a mystery.

Can Home Cooking Build A Happy Marriage?

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Falling in love is a wonderful and magical experience between two people. The chemistry is strange and sometimes very complicated. The experience differs in many ways but the commonest are happiness, restlessness and strong emotions. However; falling in love doesn’t always guarantee a successful marriage or living together. Frankly speaking, according to statistics many are getting divorce more than getting together.

To build and support successful marriage or relationships, many partners read books written as a guide to happy marriage. Despite hundreds of books counseling couples, lovers are constantly in pain, emotionally and psychologically, affected by painful love affairs. The causes of divorces or separations vary, lack of attention, sex, cheating, quarrels, financial matters and others. However; few things many never thought of as destroyer of marriages is the lack of cooking at home and lack of prevention of early sex in teenage relationship.

Many couples friendship began at school as teenagers before they settled. In principle, it is always good for people to study and know each other very well, before entering into relations or love affairs. But on moral issues entering into relationships as teenagers isn’t a wise thing to do. Children as young as thirteen and fourteen indulged in caressing and kissing. This is seen as normal in advanced countries but in Africa, it is not permitted.

Most of these early relationships end up in separate ways or settling together.When they finally get married, the love isn’t strong as before. That’s where the problems begin. In this case, the marriage doesn’t go far. Why? The reason is simple and logical. Both have seen their nakedness too much as teenagers to the extent that they no longer value their precious bodies as adults. No happiness and the essence of enjoying a happy relationship is completely ruined.

Here the dignity and the worthiness of the woman have been neglected and abused by the man. It is always the man that causes the breakup because he wants something new. Many start to cheat and stayed late at work in illicit love affairs. A woman or man may find the real happiness in life, marriage, living together or in relationships, when they enter into love affairs as adults than as teenagers.

Any man or woman who doesn’t know how to cook before getting into a relationship or marriage may not fully enjoy the relationship. There is always a guarantee for a happy marriage when one of the partners knows how to cook but if both can’t cook means the marriage have a bleak future. Imagine a family depending always on fast food or tin foods. How would a husband feel after a day’s hard work, comes home to sit behind the dining table and be served with can spaghetti, with that marshy tomato sauce? Many enjoy that but that’s health hazard.

A man facing such situation may never be happy. Some may speak against it but many hide the way they feel when upset. Since he can’t live with that any longer he starts to seek his interest in other places. That’s where the cheating starts. If the one he is seeing can’t provide him those delicious meals he is missing from his previous partner, the relationship automatically comes to an end.

It is therefore very essential for both men and women to learn or know how to cook before getting into a relationship or marriage. Getting familiar with cooking isn’t a difficult issue. There are thousands of books and adult schools for cooking. Time factor is always an issue. Many may not have the time to go to a cooking school after work. Here a cooking book is very useful.

Just follow the instructions on how to cook and next thing is the delicious meal on the dining table. You may not be perfect at your first attempt but remember practice makes man perfect. Besides, cultivating the habit of cooking at home saves a lot of money. I am happily married for the past twenty years. When my wife is busy at work, I do the cooking for the children. This is the only way to share the secrets of why our marriage is stronger than ever. I am a very good cook apart from my writing career.

Mistakes Most Women Do When Desperate

Couple of years ago in Africa, a pastor living somewhere in my neighbourhood, claims he has powers to cure barrenness and other health problems. Many women with diverse problems, including those looking for children without success, teamed up in numbers, all hoping and trusting this pastor, whose heart was far from God, using the Bible to prey on women who weren’t aware of his devilish plans.

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Love is strange and unpredictable, but relationship at work the right thing to do?

Have you heard that desperate people do desperate things? Actuated by a feeling of hopelessness, having an urgent need or finding yourself in desperate situations, what some people will do or go to the extreme lengths to get whatever they are looking for, will put you in a state of shock and bewilderment for the rest of your entire life, when you hear about it.

An ordained pastor serving God does what God requires of him, but this fake pastor was strong enough to tell each woman seeking for a ‘miraculous cure’ to have a baby, to remove their underwear. Like king Solomon sleeping with his concubines, the pastor defiled and had carnal knowledge with every woman that came to see him. Some of the women kept this ungodly act secret and those that thought he was a bad pastor told their husbands.

In the scotching sun, one hot afternoon, angry husbands stormed the premises of the false pastor with clubs and cutlasses. He peeped through the key hole of the door and saw angry men behind the door; trying to find their way into the room he had been committing his sins. I think that was the first time he had the vision to ask God what to do next. He opened the rear house window, jumped out and fled for his dear life. He was never seen again.

Women face different kinds of temptations daily in the society. The question is: Being a woman, what would you do when facing such temptations? For example, would you sleep with the boss of a company, who requests for sex before giving you the job of your dream or you will turn away from such a person? Reference: In 2010, the US-based Center For Work Life-Policy found that 15 per cent of women, even at executive level or above, admitted to sleeping with their boss.

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When love relationship with your boss turns messy at work, is the beginning of the lady’s nightmare.

Would you call such relationships stupid when it improved their career chances? If really some women can do that to get promotion, then how do they feel, knowing that they didn’t earn that promotion through hard work?  Yet there are many reasons experts say it is never good to have a relationship at working place. A lady who accepts such advances and sleeps with her boss, should keep in her mind that her boss will do similar thing again with the next female looking for job.

There are problems in relationships and when a relationship of such kind comes to a bitter end, who does it affect most, the boss or the lady? In my opinion one gains a lot of respect at work when you refrain from any love affair at work. Above all the chances of losing your job are very slim. It is also known that many women give up their jobs when experiencing unwanted sexual advances from their superiors. That’s good thinking and action.

Whatever temptation a woman might face, she has the power to make a bad or good decision, but always remember it is never good to involve in love affair at the office when you are paid to work. You might think you are the lucky one because you’ve been picked by your boss out of your colleagues, but when the relationship becomes stormy that will be the beginning of your nightmare.

 

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