ARE YOU EASY TO LIVE WITH?

Sad 6Many are experiencing bitter relationships, but how many of them try to find out the reason things are not going the right way?

Many are raised from different homes, influenced by different  culture, custom and tradition. Thus, living with other people sometimes becomes a very difficult issue, proving that it’s often wrong if we lean on our own understanding. Many times you may think you are right but wrong.

It is very common and part of our everyday life, to see beautiful ladies and gentlemen in town and at the offices. The perfume they wear add glamor to their personalities with sweet charm, but many are experiencing bitter relationships, often taking away their happiness and putting them into a tunnel of misery.

The set up of our homes immediately convey the message to a visitor, nature, and character of those dwelling there and the sort of training or life being acquired from it. Truly, the life and character of a person can easily be determined from the home he or she was raised. Thus, are you one of those hard to live with, because of your bad character or the nature of the home you were raised?

If you are a lady or gentleman in your late thirties and still living single, after many stormy affairs, it’s time to sit quietly and ask: Am I a difficult person to live with? If I am, how can I make things better?

Once in Amsterdam, I shared a kitchen with other tenants living in the apartment. More than a dozen times, I witnessed one of the male tenants spitting into the kitchen sink. A kitchen I cut my meat and do my cooking? I was shocked to the extent that I lost the desire to cook in that kitchen. I couldn’t tell him to stop because I don’t want any confrontation.

This went on and on until one of the tenants caught him in the act again and the confrontation escalated into a physical fight. Eventually, the owner of the apartment who wasn’t pleased with what he did, ejected him from that apartment. How can an adult or fully grown man, lack the intelligence to do something like that without noticing that’s completely wrong?

In another development, a man lost his job because his employers said he stinks. He stood his ground to tell his boss that he is the one that stinks. This bad odor is something I knew, but couldn’t tell him, because there are certain things not easy to speak about it. This is a problem which shows that as human beings we do many things and harbored many bad characters we don’t simply see or notice them.

In the early 2000’s, I nearly lost my job at the restaurant I was working at in Antwerp. One of my female colleague’s armpit stinks very bad. I was finding it difficult to work with her, so I bought her a deodorant to use. The deodorant ended up in the hands of her husband, who came to the office with his wife to see my boss. Luckily, I had already discussed this issue with my boss, thus; I was set free. It was a lesson I’m now very careful about the way I approach things. Some kindness may put you into a very big trouble.

Life is wonderful. Life doesn’t mean suffering but chains of sad and bad events, including bad habits and character, have taken its toll on mankind today, making life worthless to some people. We can make life better and worthy to live, by being humble, eliminating foolish pride, be content with whatever we have and give respect and to love our neighbors.

What Will You Do When A Married Woman Is Interested In You?

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“How would you judge it, when a married woman wants to sleep with you,  a blessing, evil or temptation?”

About fourteen years ago, I made an advert in a local newspaper in Antwerp, Belgium, looking for a job as a cleaner because cleaning is one of the easiest jobs to get if one wants to be financially independent as quickly as possible. (Later the Belgian government noticed it and blocked the illegal work by introducing cleaning payment cheques through work agencies) I had a good response and started working for four married women.

When a man is around a woman, one needs to be conscious, because some women are very attractive and tempting. The beautiful dress they wear and the expensive perfumes they use, add glamour to their beauty, which could sweep a man off his feet if you are not the type hard to fight temptation. There is no way a fowl can pass maize without swallowing it. I don’t blame Bill Clinton, Jeffery Archer, Mike Tyson, Tiger Woods and many others for their inability to resist the taste of the juicy fruit. All came crashing down because of a woman.

One of the women I was working for, husband works outside Antwerp. Being a housewife, she thought she could cheat on her husband with me. It may be that I am completely wrong, she hadn’t those intentions. Probably she was just trying to see if I would yield to her demands to determine if I am a dangerous man in her house, in order to kick me out immediately. In the first week, I started cleaning her house, there isn’t a single day passing by without her touching my buttocks. She comes very close behind me touches my butt and leaves.

Saskia (not her real name) was a very beautiful and attractive lady. It’s hard to resist the temptation of giving her what she wants. I stood firm not to enter into her tempting ‘Golden box,’ yet I was scared to death to tell her to stop touching my buttocks. Besides, her husband was very friendly to me, there is no way I’m going to do this. It’s completely wrong to sleep with another man’s wife. I would not be happy if someone does that to me. After the continuation of ‘buttocks touching’ for two weeks without response, she stopped.

I gave a big sigh of relief, unknowing she has other plans. On the first floor of the building was a library. Usually, I take all the books and dust the shelves in the cleaning process. She knows that I clean the bookshelves every week, so she printed a colored photograph of a man inserting his manhood into a lady’s ‘golden box’ and hid it at a place where I can easily reach when cleaning the books. More than dozen times, I took the picture and watched, asking myself, Lord what a temptation? I refused to sleep with her.

The third temptation happened on a very sad day, September 11, 2001, when terrorists attacked the World Trade Center. While I glued myself to the corner of the sitting hall listening to the shocking news, she invited me to join her on the sofa and I declined. “You are a married woman who wore a ring,” I told her. From that day I gained my freedom. We became good friends and she liked me more like a brother.

She gave me a key to her house to clean weekly without disturbing her if she is in bed. But one day something went terribly wrong. Saskia forgets that she has given me a key to her house. She wakes one morning and finds a dark figure in her kitchen. I have no words to explain what followed. She screamed calling God to come to her rescue. This is a woman who doesn’t even believe in God. I was sad and upset. I gave back her key that very day.

I worked for her for five years and quit because I got a full-time work and it became difficult to handle both. She was highly disappointed when I decided to leave. I want her to be happy, so I went to her place with a friend to work for her. She rejected him outright. I took another friend and she also opposed him. I gave up but she didn’t take it kindly. She sent me a disappointing mail of neglecting her, calling me a bad person, after all, that she has done for me. I apologized and everything became normal.

How To Be A Celebrity When You Are Not: Your Personal Appearance Influence How Others View You

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Just as homes have straight forward stories to tell about people’s behavior and the sort of environment they grew up, the same way our personal appearance says much about us. In the first place, why is it necessary to be clean, neat and be modest in clothing? Being naturally clean person and hygienic conscious conclude that you have self-respect.

There are certain important things we need to do daily in our lives that can’t be ignored. Even though due to poverty, health and other life problems, many have lost the control and ability to take proper care of themselves. It is very common and part of our everyday life to see ladies and gentlemen in town and offices, but they dress very shabby. Some of the dressings are so bad that you may wonder if they have mirrors at home.

Others put on the most magnificent perfume to add program to their personalities, but by chance if some of these glamorous workers invite you to their homes, you may not like to go to the house again if given second invitation, because of the the poor organization and filth in the house.

If you take a wider view of things, you can discover that dating and friendships seem to be disappointments. Many are hurt or recovering from love affair disasters. Why must my date end in this way? This is one of the questions that usually follow. Many times it may be differences of opinions, careers and misunderstandings but at times it may turn out to be that the partners don’t like something about each other, especially about his or her home, body or clothes.

Keeping the body clean and modestly dressed are very important. One that works at the office’ clothes shouldn’t be the same like a clown who entertains at the circus. Have you ever heard someone telling another person “Repair your shoes, for they talk about you?” If the heels of your shoes are completely worn out, every step you make attracts people to look at you, because the rhythm of the footsteps is unusual. Imagine if you haven’t polished your shoes over a year, how will they look like?

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Cleanliness is next to Godliness they say, apart from good health and the creation of healthy environment, good personal appearance attracts people to view you as outstanding among others. The good news is you look like a celebrity in the eyes of onlookers but the bad news is you may get many date invitations, which you may not feel comfortable with it, because your heart belongs to only one person. However, count yourself a lucky person when you attract than repel.

What Is It Like To Be A Woman?

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One of Marilyn Monroe’s quote which reveals how unique, special and different a woman is.

I am a married man for the past 21 years, yet I can’t say I know a lot about women. My wife gets angry with me sometimes, when I know I’m right and she is wrong. But since I don’t want to lean upon my understanding, which may be wrong, I quickly apologize to her to create a happy atmosphere once again.

I work at a place with over forty female teachers. I ‘m always scared to smile, paranoid maybe, because I don’t want any of the ladies there to have in mind that I want her. I, therefore, maintain a serious mood at my workplace. Unfortunately, I was doing more harm to myself than good.

In the first year, I realized pure hatred from some of the teachers towards me. Action speaks louder than words, so don’t ask me how I know that they hate me, please. In fact, some people can’t control their emotions when they hate you. Many pretend they haven’t seen me, even though I’m very close to those tempting bodies, fashion and magic perfumes.

The hate towards me increased to a certain level that I decided to find a solution immediately, to present myself a faithful and trustful person among them. I started greeting those I’ve never greeted at the school before. Some just walked away without response but some gave me recognition and responded. That encouraged me to continue the greetings.

Did I forget myself as an African, when there is a proverb in Africa that says a woman is a beautiful flower in the middle of the garden and the man is the fence around it? Did I also forget that in Mexico, it is said men that treat women very good were brought up by queens?

“If she’s amazing, she won’t be easy. If she’s easy, she won’t be amazing. If she’s worth it, you won’t give up. If you give up, you’re not worthy. … Truth is, everybody is going to hurt you; you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for.” Did I also forget this great quote from the reggae legend, Bob Marley?

Once you have a clean heart and ready to change things in your life, you will be successful. I became friendlier with a broad smile on my face daily. Once I met one of the ladies who hate me most, with a cup of coffee in one hand and books in the other hand, trying to open a door and I rushed like the late Christopher Reeve in his Super Man series, to open the door for her.

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An African proverb revealing the greatness and importance of a woman in the society.

It was that very day, she asked of my name and she told me hers. Since then we communicate regularly and laugh over many things. In life, never judge a woman wrongly. Like every human being, some are introverts and others extrovert. Some may be very quiet but that doesn’t mean that they hate you, while others quickly engage in conversation with you.

So what is it like to be a woman? Don’t feel great or superior to a woman. Respect her opinion and don’t underestimate her. That will open the way to know her very well to understand the sort of creatures women are.

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