Your Enemy Gets Mad, If He Fails To See You The Way He Wants

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No one gives birth to a child and name him or her ‘Enemy,’ thus; I haven’t met anyone yet called ‘Enemy.’ Yet an enemy exists, the reason the dictionary defines it: As a person who is actively opposed or hostile to someone or something.

What causes enmity between people? I watched a program of a man that hates his neighbour. According to him, his neighbour’s stereo was too noisy and many times when he asks him to reduce the volume he refuses to yield to his demand.

I understand him, especially after the week’s hard work, you wish to have a happy and quiet lovely weekend, reading your favourite books and newspapers, but that neighbour of yours has denied you all those good moments you’re longing for.

At times you might be an enemy or someone might hate you for doing no wrong, just because of your efforts to live a happy life. Do you know that your hard work can sometimes spark jealousy and hatred from an empire of deceitful enemies?

Do you know that even your successful marriage sometimes makes you an enemy, because your neighbour’s marriage is on the rocks? How do you handle such situations when you haven’t done anything wrong but someone madly hates you?

I do hear people often say: The problem was beyond my control, the reason I used food as a means of consolation, became an alcoholic or drug addict. That’s really a big mistake. When you’re experiencing problems, you don’t live on destructive measures to solve your problems, you need to fight those destructive elements.

Years back when I arrived in Europe, among other foreigners, I came to Italy at a time I don’t know anyone. I slept at the Central Train Station in Rome for many days. (I have revisited Rome to see where I slept in the early nineties) I saw that the hard conditions were taking its toll on some of the homeless Africans.

Some became alcoholics, drug addicts, involved in drug trafficking and some decided to go back to Africa. I encouraged them to stay but many of them returned to Africa. Today, I’m no more an illegal immigrant. Above all, I live with my wife and three children in Europe. I wake up every morning at 5 AM and go to work like other workers, enjoying happy union with my family when I’m come at back home.

I know what the enemy wants. I wasn’t ready to be a destitute, alcoholic, drug addict or courier. If I have made it, then you can. Never blame anyone for your failure in life. Don’t let your enemy be happy. Fight those destructive forces to make them mad.

How Violence Takes Away Our Joy And Peace

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Everyone wants to live a peaceful and happy life, instead many wake up in the morning with fear, because of constant violence erupting around us. Innocent victims, including children are caught up daily, in heinous crimes and violence, making living more difficult.

Many, including religious people, feel that violence is the right answer to provocation, in this way, they kill and praise God for that killing. It’s actually difficult to understand the reason some religious people praise God for killings.

I can understand why many have lost faith and even think God doesn’t exist, but the Bible teaches that violence originated with the archenemy of both God and man: Satan the Devil, whom Jesus Christ called “a murderer.” (John 8:44)

Apart from terrorism which continue to steal our happiness, most of our own misery comes from our homes. The world’s infatuation with media violence, games and unwholesome programs, influence children to indulge in crime. In America many children take gun to school.

The question people often ask is: Why is there so much suffering? Does God care about what humans are enduring? You can find answers to these questions when you read the Bible.

“Truly, I say to you, among those born of women there has not arisen anyone greater than John the Baptist; yet he who is least in the kingdom of heaven is greater than he.  And from the days of John the Baptist until now the kingdom of heaven suffers violence, and violent men take it by force.” Matthew 11:11-20.

In the midst of fear, hopelessness and uncertainty, we need to ask, who are we to depend on for our deliverance or safety? Are we to depend on politicians or church of leaders?

To me politicians have ruined our society more than the terrorists terrorizing us. As for church leaders, some have signed contract with the devil to please them, the reason many have gone astray.

In our present generation, one shouldn’t count on politicians and or some church leaders. The only way we can live in peace is to find ways to make positive changes in our behavior. We should cultivate the habit to forgive and forget, because forgiveness brings relief and comfort.

Above all we should always remember the words of the great teacher, Jesus Christ: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ Matthew 22:39.

Can We Rise Above Negative Attitudes And Hurtful Feelings?

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People pray during a mass held outside the public school where 12 children were killed by a gunman last week in Rio de Janeiro, Brazil.

In the community, your neighbour can be your enemy, your brother can be your enemy and your sister can be your enemy. When two people have a difference, both often become angry. The reason we see sons rise against fathers, daughters against mothers, brother against brother and sister against sister.

Some of the painful and hurtful things in life, is when you don’t know where you went wrong, or the mistake you did, but someone hates you. You try to reason with the person, making efforts to settle, but since he has bad intentions, he isn’t prepared to make peace with you. Perhaps you have experienced a similar situation.

There are people who take other people’s quiet nature, submissiveness, and humbleness, as stupid or foolishness. Before you start hating someone, probably your close friend or relative, sit down with him, face to face, to let him or her know what the problem is. You can’t just begin calling the person a liar, fool and going far to tell your brother or sister of stealing your money to wed his wife or her husband, by writing letters.

Some people like to live a simple life, even though they can afford everything, including a car, yet he or she prefers to use a bicycle to work. That doesn’t mean that the person is stupid or has failed in life. If you live with pride and arrogance and wants to advertise your wealth, go on, because not everyone is interested in what you do.

People who live with pride feel very intelligent in their own eyes. When they are talking to you, they try to make you understand or believe they are the most intelligent people on earth. But the more you remain silent, to listen or read whatever they write, the more you see how stupid and foolish they are. Even the ten foolish virgins are all intelligent.

Most people often never think of how pride can be destructive. There was once a man who lives in Amsterdam. He was very famous, because of the way he lives and boastful nature. Anytime he travels to Africa, he demolishes part of the house he was building, suggesting to the builders to build a modern house, even though the plan of the house they were following was a modern plan. He was never satisfied with any modern house since he changes his mind frequently anytime he sees a beautiful house.

Unfortunately, he was involved in a serious crime. After serving his prison sentence, he was deported to Africa. He now lives in an uncompleted building for over a decade. As human beings, we need to be careful of the words that come from our mouth. There are words once spoken, they will come back to hurt or haunt you. You can’t reject something, then later want it back. You can’t take your brother to court when he asked you to sit down with him to solve the problem amicably.

Your uncontrollable anger and pride, are driving you to execute devilish plans against your brother, but nothing is working. That brother you are fighting against is using his precious time, seeking the intervention of Jesus, to give him the patience to endure the pain and temptations he is going through. And it works. Once you read your Bible each day or go to church to worship each Sunday, you learn certain practical principles, which will help you to overcome the hardest obstacles ahead of you.

I posted this article to encourage everyone facing any difficulties in life, to trust and believe in God. Try Jah’s love when everything fails. Seek the face of Jah in the world’s most widely read book: The Bible. It encourages us to cultivate qualities, such as discernment, love, kindness, insight, and patience. Above all the Bible can help you to promote peace and heal emotional wounds.

If One Pretends To Be Dead, Mourners Will Pretend To Bury You Alive

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Discussing your problems with someone you love is the best way to get help and solutions to the problem.

“If one pretends to be dead, mourners will pretend to bury you alive,” is one of the thousands of African proverbs meant to educate, shape our lives and inspire us, as each proverb carries a moral lesson, advice, and wisdom. This particular proverb speaks against pretending.

As imperfect human beings, we are responsible for both the good and bad things we do. Whichever way one takes it, to pretend is also considered to be something bad. The question is why do people pretend? According to a study, pretending has both advantages and disadvantages.

Sometimes one needs to pretend. For example, when all of a sudden in a cinema hall, a gunman on a shooting spree takes everyone by surprise without any escaping route, pretending to be dead among those already dead could save your life. But in other ways, pretending can cause self-destruction, depression, loneliness and other psychological problems. How?

The pressure in the society is enormous. Things are not going well, yet many people prefer to hide their problems behind a false smile. If you don’t share your problem with your family or a trustworthy friend, how can someone know your problem to give the attention or help you need? Researchers reveal that hiding a problem behind a false smile or faking happiness, is more likely to bring you harmful feelings.

You might not be happy with your job, because your boss or a colleague is sexually harassing you, exploiting you physically, emotionally and mentally, yet you wear a false smile behind such psychological scars. Instead of pretending to be okay, it’s always better to tell your problem to someone to receive help.

Many wish to be someone, because of the extravagant lives other people live. But we must be careful about what we sometimes wish for. We must be content with whatever we have to live a happy life. Don’t let your neighbor’s expensive car, push you to live beyond your means, and put on a fake smile, deceiving people that you are living great, while you know that you are struggling to make ends meet.

In Africa and other countries around the world, many are believed to be sick of HIV but scared to go and see the doctor, because they aren’t ready to be told they have contracted HIV or Aids.  They rather prefer to hide their problems with a fake smile, forgetting that no one drinks medicine on the behalf of a sick person.

To pretend that everything is okay, while suffering, is not good for our health, we must, therefore, confine our problems to those close to us for help and solutions. That’s the only way we can overcome and defeat our problems.

Belgium: Never Feel Sorry For A Mad Dog, It Will Turn Round And Bite You

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If you want to know how cruel some people can be, just give them an inch. They will go for a yard, or give them a yard, they will definitely go for a mile. That’s the attitude of greedy and power thirsty people. All what they care about is power and they always look for the weak one to dominate, mishandle, torture, abuse and degrade them in every way they feel satisfied about it. The reason there is no peace in this world, but total chaos.

Many do ask the reason my articles reflect or show bitterness. There are many things one may find it difficult to understand, but if you are a black man or knows the bitter experience of the black man, you will quickly know or understand, the reason this person is very bitter. In a country like Belgium, which they don’t value the life of an African, just like how many don’t value the life of a Palestine, don’t expect me to be very happy, because they manufacture quality chocolates or beer.

I live in a country run by leaders including the Royal Family, even though the latter aren’t active in Belgium’s politics. In the same country, is a statue of a man, from the Royal Family who committed a serious crime in Africa during the colonial era. Leopold II killed and disfigured over ten million Africans, including children, yet Belgium thought he deserves a statue and streets named after him.

Would anyone be happy if treated like that? If you have a clean heart and love your neighbour like yourself, you will know this is not right, but completely wrong or even an abomination. That’s my bitterness. Call me a bad person and let God ask you: What do you worship Satan? Any time I see the statue of Leopold in Brussels, my blood runs cold, but I am powerless. I am not a terrorist to throw a bomb at that statue, to bring it down like how Sadam Hussein’s came tumbling down. But since the pen is mightier than the sword, I will continue to write and make my message clear to the Belgium leaders.

They can ignore me because ‘I am a common African, many people without sincere heart use as door mat,’ but I will remind them that “The chicken always comes back home to roost.” If you plant orange, you will reap an orange and if you plant evil, you will reap evil. They will one day have a taste of their own medicine, before they will fully understand the bitterness of this writer. It’s really sad but Africans shall continue to endure it without suicide like always.

How can the world go free for Jesus Christ who didn’t commit any crime to carry the cross alone? Those who committed the crime like Belgium, deserves to carry Christ’s heavy load. The reason I will never feel sorry for Belgium.

Let Love Be Your Identity Without Hypocrisy

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Do you know that your little kindness can completely change the life of someone? The hope of many is gradually fading. They don’t feel secure anymore and the love they are looking for, is nowhere is near. Many stay in bed for hours, yet they can’t sleep, because they lack love and good friends.

Having friends they say is good, but there are good and bad friends. Friendship sometimes burns like acid, giving you the feeling of leaving this wicked world, all because there is no love and if there is, it’s never genuine.  All over the world, including America, there are racial problems, because there is no love.

Is the Bible the best book to read? Yes! it is, but many don’t see it that way, yet the uncountable prophesies are taking place. “They will be divided, father against son and son against father, mother against daughter and daughter against mother, mother-in-law against daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law against mother-in-law.” Yes! it is taking place right now.

Where is the love that everyone needs? Where is the love which can heal the world? Where is the love that is not sold but is the most ‘expensive’ thing to get from humans? Now I know the reason Jesus said: “Love thy neighbour as thyself.” But who is our neighbour? We are the neighbours, meaning love must be part of us until the end of our lives.

We live now live in a world most people do not have compassion. Many are cruel, love violence, and have no love for their neighbour. I don’t need to be black, white, Chinese or Indian before you love me. In this cruel world, money, wealth, luxury and friends can’t make one happy. All that we need is peace and love.

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Let love be your identity where ever you go. Let love be radiant in your life to reflect on others. Let genuine love be the key to your life to open the doors to those that need happiness, food, and shelter. Let your love bring back those spiritually dead without hope back to life.

Let your love take away the depression, frustration, and loneliness of someone facing the hard reality of life.  Open the door for someone so that you could see his or smile. Bring sunshine in the life of one who feels darkness always around him and your reward will overflow its banks.

How burdensome To Be A Muslim Woman And A Prisoner Of Islam?

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Burka: a symbol of woman abuse, ignorance or prisoner of Islam?

Salia is a Muslim woman and a colleague at work. Unlike many women, she has a different attitude and approach towards her religion. She prays five times daily and does Ramadan every year like every Muslim. But she doesn’t strictly follow Islamic dress codes, such as wearing head covers, signifying principle of modesty.

Salia always tells me how she hates the domination of women by Muslim men. “I respect the Koran, but many Muslims don’t do what the Koran says. Mis-interpretation of the book has caused violence and wickedness among mankind. Every Muslim tries to convince the world that Islam means peace, but they have made the religion the most violent one,” says Salia.

“Not every Muslim is a terrorist, but because of their violent nature, every Muslim is seen as a terrorist,” Aida further stressed. In her early forties, getting married to a Muslim man has been her biggest challenge. “Their violent, abusive and dominant nature puts me off to consider marrying any of them,” said Salia.

This reminds of a similar thing a Moroccan woman married to a Jamaican, told me couple of years ago. “Over my dead body to marry a Muslim man,” she said. Today Amina is happily married to her Christian husband and raising two beautiful twin sisters in Antwerp.

Despite all her fears, Salia’s mother who died just last year assured her to come over to Morocco to see a man she has found for her. Thus; three years ago, she proceeded to Morocco and got married. The man knows that Salia doesn’t cover up her head, yet he married her without any question, because he is coming to Europe.

After their marriage, Salia successfully brought her husband to live in her apartment. Just a month after coming to Belgium, troubles started brewing between her and the husband. Her man is now asking her to cover up her head, but Salia refused on the grounds that he told him she doesn’t use head covers.

This problem escalated to series of arguments and continuous quarrels at home, without any solution. Meanwhile, Salia is pregnant in such a center of misunderstanding and unfriendly atmosphere between her and the man, who knew who she was and now violently wants her to change her lifestyle. What happened next is very disturbing. When Salia was entering her car to work, she met her neighbours she’s been staying with them for over more than four years and she greets them.

Her husband took it as offence, because Salia has greeted Non-Muslims who are Catholics or ‘infidels’ as Muslims call them. Salia thought she has had enough. She threw her husband outside and he left. At the age of forty-four she delivered her first child. The baby is now a year old, doing fine with her single mother.

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How comfortable are they in such clothes all in the name of Islam?