If One Pretends To Be Dead, Mourners Will Pretend To Bury You Alive

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Discussing your problems with someone you love is the best way to get help and solutions to the problem.

“If one pretends to be dead, mourners will pretend to bury you alive,” is one of the thousands of African proverbs meant to educate, shape our lives and inspire us, as each proverb carries a moral lesson, advice, and wisdom. This particular proverb speaks against pretending.

As imperfect human beings, we are responsible for both the good and bad things we do. Whichever way one takes it, to pretend is also considered to be something bad. The question is why do people pretend? According to a study, pretending has both advantages and disadvantages.

Sometimes one needs to pretend. For example, when all of a sudden in a cinema hall, a gunman on a shooting spree takes everyone by surprise without any escaping route, pretending to be dead among those already dead could save your life. But in other ways, pretending can cause self-destruction, depression, loneliness and other psychological problems. How?

The pressure in the society is enormous. Things are not going well, yet many people prefer to hide their problems behind a false smile. If you don’t share your problem with your family or a trustworthy friend, how can someone know your problem to give the attention or help you need? Researchers reveal that hiding a problem behind a false smile or faking happiness, is more likely to bring you harmful feelings.

You might not be happy with your job, because your boss or a colleague is sexually harassing you, exploiting you physically, emotionally and mentally, yet you wear a false smile behind such psychological scars. Instead of pretending to be okay, it’s always better to tell your problem to someone to receive help.

Many wish to be someone, because of the extravagant lives other people live. But we must be careful about what we sometimes wish for. We must be content with whatever we have to live a happy life. Don’t let your neighbor’s expensive car, push you to live beyond your means, and put on a fake smile, deceiving people that you are living great, while you know that you are struggling to make ends meet.

In Africa and other countries around the world, many are believed to be sick of HIV but scared to go and see the doctor, because they aren’t ready to be told they have contracted HIV or Aids.  They rather prefer to hide their problems with a fake smile, forgetting that no one drinks medicine on the behalf of a sick person.

To pretend that everything is okay, while suffering, is not good for our health, we must, therefore, confine our problems to those close to us for help and solutions. That’s the only way we can overcome and defeat our problems.

Introducing The Writer Died By Joel Savage

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About The Writer Died by Joel Savage

Kumbe finds himself in a hostile environment, as a victim of divorce and neglect. An environment he witnesses the suffering and hustling his mother goes through to feed him. He was unhappy because his father was neglecting his family, spending his fortune on other women. He sees his adolescence as a struggle to win the support of his father. At school, he was among the best students. This gives him inspiration to fight to educate himself. In a confused society, Kumbe spends a better part of his life visiting the library, reading and studying.

Despite daily horrendous life he passes through, Kumbe excels to be an outstanding journalist and writer, attached to the president of his native country, Ghana, with enormous enthusiasm and optimism. However, in his lifetime as a famous journalist, his fame gives him nothing but hatred, jealousy and blackmail from an empire of deceitful enemies. He stands strong and firm, destined to fight the cruel charismatic power of those forces haunting him. But they are stronger than him.

Despite his wife’s moral and material support, Kumbe surrenders and dies mysteriously. Who and what killed him? “The Writer Died” is a truly remarkable book of hard life experience of child neglect, an indispensable and inspiring book for anyone that may find himself in a similar situation. The writer tries to define, measure, classify, and understand what child neglect is like in Africa.

About the Author of The Writer Died, Joel Savage.

Joel Savage is an author and freelance journalist, who enjoys the challenges of creativity and adventure. His work is considered to be pure genre of creative nonfiction of human touch, with appeal to a broad general audience.

He was born in the central region of Ghana, Cape Coast, on January 19, 1957 and studied at Ebenezer Secondary School and Accra High School. He later studied at Ghana Institute of Journalism. He wrote feature articles for the Daily Graphic, the Ghanaian Times, and the Weekly Spectator in Accra for a certain period.

Joel lives in Antwerp, Belgium, with his wife and three children, where he writes for Diplomatic Aspects Newspaper.

Where to buy The Writer Died by Joel Savage.

Visit Joel Savage’s Author Page on oAuthor to find all links for locations of this and other works by Joel Savage.

A Child Is Never Born A Racist, Adults Teach Them

From the moment a woman conceives, she and her husband have responsibilities to take care of the child. Despite the pains a mother goes through to deliver her lovely adorably child, there is nothing tougher than raising a child. Part of the responsibilities is to ensure the child is safe, healthy, respectful, educated and disciplined, but how disciplined are children these days?

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A child under the control of his parents learns what he sees and speaks the language he hears. Lessons adults teach a child is what sticks in the mind of the child. When a mother tells her child not to play with black or white kids, that’s exactly what the child would avoid. Ask the child why he isn’t playing with those black or white kids, don’t be surprised to hear “My mother says I shouldn’t play with black kids.”

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Instead of teaching a child how to love, many adults pollute the mind of their children. By the time they reach teenage years, some become dangerous racists on the streets. The reason racism, hatred and discrimination never end, causing unrest and bloodshed daily in our society. Children are the most beautiful thing on earth. They are the future leaders; they therefore need proper manners, to know the right from wrong and healthy mind to create a better society.

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“If I had received good instruction as a child I would be with my family today and at peace with my neighbors. I hope and pray that all you parents in the sound of my voice will train up your children in the way they should go,” a wise quote from Charles Portis, True Grit.