Online Dating: The Good, The Bad And The Ugly Part Of It

hackerThere are many dangers behind Online Dating one can’t see.

Life can be boring sometimes. Frustration, depression, loneliness, and anxiety, are some of the problems that have taken its toll on many people today, forcing them to ‘Dating Sites,’ hoping that’s the right place to find love and happiness they are looking for. 

The internet has enabled us to see the world through the window, facilitating business, creating easy communication and making friendship easy throughout the globe. But the question is: Is ‘Dating Sites’ actually the right place for someone to look for his or her dream partner? Frankly speaking, dating sites harbored all kinds of dangers many ignore or don’t see because they are simply following their heart’s desire.

I don’t see the distance between two people dating, as one of the disadvantages of online dating if one person lives in Canada and the other lives in England, but the dangers of falling into wrong hands, which have prematurely ended the lives of many and added names of missing people to the missing people’s list.

While on ‘Dating Site,’ your aim is to find a lover, but the man on the other side doesn’t want love, he wants to harm or kill you. How will you know? This is the reason many that answer to online dating, mysteriously disappear without any trace. This makes ‘Dating Sites’ or ‘Blind Date’ more dangerous than imagined.

Once in Amsterdam, I contacted a lady who wants a non-smoker. We made an appointment at the central train station, asking me to be at a very famous point everyone knew. She was late. I watched my time and I realized it was over ten minutes. Then after fifteen minutes, I saw a pretty woman smiling at me. She was gorgeous. Her tall slim figure was the exact choice of a woman I was looking for.

“Are you Joe?” She asked and I nodded.”I have been here already but spying on you to see if you are a handsome man. I really hate ugly and shabbily dressed men.” She said. “What a bad woman? Is that what men or women do to each other on blind-date?” I asked in mind. Now I know the reason many dates end in disappointment. They came and probably saw the person unattractive and quietly sneaked away? Who will be happy when treated like that? In fact, the statement she made ruined my day. After eating and a walk through the city, I didn’t request for a second date. That’s how we lost contact.

There is nothing wrong when doing online dating, but be extremely careful, because what you are looking for might be completely different from what the person you are communicating with wants. There are some recommended steps which can keep one far from loneliness and depression. Reading interesting books as a hobby can capture your imagination to avoid depression and loneliness.

If you love to stay at home, please cultivate the habit of taking a walk through the gardens, doing window shopping, joining social clubs. Going to the gym to exercise once or twice a week doesn’t only keep you fit but also psychologically healthy. Who knows you will meet the right person in those places? You may have a hidden talent but you don’t know. Find out what you are very good at, follow it and start blogging to create your happiness.

 

You’ve Got The Power To Liberate Yourself From Depression

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Suicide is not a solution to free yourself from the world’s problems

Everyone has wonderful hopes, dreams, and expectations of their future, but many times what we are looking for never come our way. Some of us have been robbed of our joy through the loss of a loved one and many feel lonely and hopeless when they find themselves in abusive homes and domestic violence.

In such a troubled world, it’s very easy to see the ailments of the society taking its toll on people. The high rate of unemployment and divorce, are also some of the causes leading to depression. It’s not surprised that psychologists have confirmed that the ailments of people can be traced from the homes and environment they were raised.

We understand that as human beings, we are bound to face difficulties in our lives, the important question is: How do we handle those problems we experience? According to World Federation for Mental Health, depression is a significant contributor to the global burden of disease and affects people in all communities across the world.

Today, depression is estimated to affect 350 million people. The World Mental Health Survey conducted in 17 countries found that on average about 1 in 20 people reported having an episode of depression. But do you know that you have the power to overcome loneliness and depression?

Why some people easily succumbed to depression and others able to resist? The happy people we often meet on the street are not super humans. They are only happy because experience in life has taught them that happiness is yourself. Someone can make you unhappy, prevent your success, or do everything to hurt you, but so long as you are a living being, you have the power, desire, inspiration or everything it takes to liberate yourself from that misery, loneliness or depression.

Fear, anxiety, depression and loneliness can easily be prevented than you know. Instead of living on drugs and alcohol, which rather increase your psychological problems, there are some recommended steps which can keep one far from loneliness and depression. Reading interesting books as a hobby can capture your imagination to avoid depression.

If you love to stay at home, please cultivate the habit of taking a walk through the gardens, doing window shopping, joining social clubs. Going to the gym to exercise once or twice a week doesn’t only keep you fit but also psychologically healthy. You may have a hidden talent but you don’t know. Find out what you are very good at, follow it and start blogging to create your happiness.

Another important factor is financial matters, which often wear people down psychologically. When facing financial problems, you need a healthy mind to find your way out not a depressed mind.  I can’t do it, I’m not sure I can succeed, there is nothing left for me in life, are all ‘symptoms’ of depression. Take away the shackle off your body and free mind from the psychological chain damaging your health.

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Leave The Problems Behind And Take A Positive Step Into The Year 2016

Chearing 1Happiness and togetherness is all that we need to make this world beautiful

Many are  struggling  to overcome anxiety disorder, fear and uncertainty, only to get disappointing results, because crime, violence and terrorism are taking away our peaceful and happy moments.

The problem is that most people find it hard to overcome their fears, because it’s part of who they are. That’s actually a mistake. “No one drinks medicine on the behalf of a sick person,” a Ghanaian proverb, meaning your happiness is in your own hands.

At times sadness, loneliness and depression make us feel miserable and scared, because we don’t know what tomorrow may bring. If you take a wider view of things you could discover that dating and friendships seem to be disappointments. Many are hurt or recovering from love affair disasters. Why must my dates end in this way? This is one of the questions that usually follows.

Many times it may be differences of opinions, careers and misunderstandings, but at times it may turn out to be that the partners don’t like something about each other, especially about his or her character. Humbleness and politeness create a happy environment, but how many people there are polite and humble?

Within some few days, we shall be witnessing the new year (2016). Are you going to carry your problems along with you? We often allow problems to take its toll on us, than finding solutions.

If the blind can play the piano, someone without hands, can open the chapters of a book, with his toes or tongue, then why do you have to grumble when you are physically strong?

The purpose of this article is to encourage, not to discourage. There are many opportunities there for you. Let God be your guide to choose wisely and let your hopes and dreams be a reality in year 2016.

If One Pretends To Be Dead, Mourners Will Pretend To Bury You Alive

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Discussing your problems with someone you love is the best way to get help and solutions to the problem.

“If one pretends to be dead, mourners will pretend to bury you alive,” is one of the thousands of African proverbs meant to educate, shape our lives and inspire us, as each proverb carries a moral lesson, advice, and wisdom. This particular proverb speaks against pretending.

As imperfect human beings, we are responsible for both the good and bad things we do. Whichever way one takes it, to pretend is also considered to be something bad. The question is why do people pretend? According to a study, pretending has both advantages and disadvantages.

Sometimes one needs to pretend. For example, when all of a sudden in a cinema hall, a gunman on a shooting spree takes everyone by surprise without any escaping route, pretending to be dead among those already dead could save your life. But in other ways, pretending can cause self-destruction, depression, loneliness and other psychological problems. How?

The pressure in the society is enormous. Things are not going well, yet many people prefer to hide their problems behind a false smile. If you don’t share your problem with your family or a trustworthy friend, how can someone know your problem to give the attention or help you need? Researchers reveal that hiding a problem behind a false smile or faking happiness, is more likely to bring you harmful feelings.

You might not be happy with your job, because your boss or a colleague is sexually harassing you, exploiting you physically, emotionally and mentally, yet you wear a false smile behind such psychological scars. Instead of pretending to be okay, it’s always better to tell your problem to someone to receive help.

Many wish to be someone, because of the extravagant lives other people live. But we must be careful about what we sometimes wish for. We must be content with whatever we have to live a happy life. Don’t let your neighbor’s expensive car, push you to live beyond your means, and put on a fake smile, deceiving people that you are living great, while you know that you are struggling to make ends meet.

In Africa and other countries around the world, many are believed to be sick of HIV but scared to go and see the doctor, because they aren’t ready to be told they have contracted HIV or Aids.  They rather prefer to hide their problems with a fake smile, forgetting that no one drinks medicine on the behalf of a sick person.

To pretend that everything is okay, while suffering, is not good for our health, we must, therefore, confine our problems to those close to us for help and solutions. That’s the only way we can overcome and defeat our problems.

Stay True And Be Confident

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Loneliness can cause depression, you’ve got the power to free yourself from the grip of this enemy.

To be lonely is something many don’t like it, because it can cause depression and escalate to mental disorder. To avoid such state, many make friends, hoping that’s going to give them all the happiness they are looking for. However, we need to be careful sometimes what we wish for, since it’s not everything that glitters is gold.

Some friends can make your life more miserable than when you were lonely. I have seen boys and girls, that grew up from disciplined and respected families, but later became shoplifters, drug addicts, thieves, liars, alcoholics, heavy smokers etc, because of friends they made.

We were once thought at school about creation, how God created man in his own image, causing him to have a deep sleep, to create the wonderful Eve. Today, some scientists continue to rebel against God, changing the mind of many to believe that we are descendants of monkeys or chimpanzee. As a result many have lost faith in the Gospel and do whatever they think it’s right, even though they are on the wrong path.

We continue to see the increase of immorality, love in public, women attending functions without underwear etc, as entertainment, without any regret or remorse, because they think it’s normal. The activities of Sodom of Gomorrah, which led to the destruction of the cities, are now part of our society. Even some pastors have lost focus and now doing many evil things to pleased man instead of God.

Despite all these temptations which continue to steal our joy, forcing us to contemplate of committing suicide and putting us under pressure to join bad friends, there is always a way we can skip such temptations. Quickly adhere to principles in the Bible, to help you determine evil from good and what can give you joy instead of worries. We should learn to be submissive and listen to our superiors. Even though we are imperfect, rebellious hearts can do us more harm than good.

I get goose pimples all over my body, whenever I see handicapped people, including the blind, making name for themselves in sports and other professions. If they have been able to overcome their physical condition problems, to reach the top, would you blame God, friends or yourself if you fail in life? Just stay true, be yourself, no matter what people say. Trust in God and live a clean life. These are the keys to wonderful life and happiness, not a fast car, luxury, beautiful house and lot of money.

Let Love Be Your Identity Without Hypocrisy

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Do you know that your little kindness can completely change the life of someone? The hope of many is gradually fading. They don’t feel secure anymore and the love they are looking for, is nowhere is near. Many stay in bed for hours, yet they can’t sleep, because they lack love and good friends.

Having friends they say is good, but there are good and bad friends. Friendship sometimes burns like acid, giving you the feeling of leaving this wicked world, all because there is no love and if there is, it’s never genuine.  All over the world, including America, there are racial problems, because there is no love.

Is the Bible the best book to read? Yes! it is, but many don’t see it that way, yet the uncountable prophesies are taking place. “They will be divided, father against son and son against father, mother against daughter and daughter against mother, mother-in-law against daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law against mother-in-law.” Yes! it is taking place right now.

Where is the love that everyone needs? Where is the love which can heal the world? Where is the love that is not sold but is the most ‘expensive’ thing to get from humans? Now I know the reason Jesus said: “Love thy neighbour as thyself.” But who is our neighbour? We are the neighbours, meaning love must be part of us until the end of our lives.

We live now live in a world most people do not have compassion. Many are cruel, love violence, and have no love for their neighbour. I don’t need to be black, white, Chinese or Indian before you love me. In this cruel world, money, wealth, luxury and friends can’t make one happy. All that we need is peace and love.

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A depressed child

Let love be your identity where ever you go. Let love be radiant in your life to reflect on others. Let genuine love be the key to your life to open the doors to those that need happiness, food, and shelter. Let your love bring back those spiritually dead without hope back to life.

Let your love take away the depression, frustration, and loneliness of someone facing the hard reality of life.  Open the door for someone so that you could see his or smile. Bring sunshine in the life of one who feels darkness always around him and your reward will overflow its banks.