If One Pretends To Be Dead, Mourners Will Pretend To Bury You Alive

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Discussing your problems with someone you love is the best way to get help and solutions to the problem.

“If one pretends to be dead, mourners will pretend to bury you alive,” is one of the thousands of African proverbs meant to educate, shape our lives and inspire us, as each proverb carries a moral lesson, advice, and wisdom. This particular proverb speaks against pretending.

As imperfect human beings, we are responsible for both the good and bad things we do. Whichever way one takes it, to pretend is also considered to be something bad. The question is why do people pretend? According to a study, pretending has both advantages and disadvantages.

Sometimes one needs to pretend. For example, when all of a sudden in a cinema hall, a gunman on a shooting spree takes everyone by surprise without any escaping route, pretending to be dead among those already dead could save your life. But in other ways, pretending can cause self-destruction, depression, loneliness and other psychological problems. How?

The pressure in the society is enormous. Things are not going well, yet many people prefer to hide their problems behind a false smile. If you don’t share your problem with your family or a trustworthy friend, how can someone know your problem to give the attention or help you need? Researchers reveal that hiding a problem behind a false smile or faking happiness, is more likely to bring you harmful feelings.

You might not be happy with your job, because your boss or a colleague is sexually harassing you, exploiting you physically, emotionally and mentally, yet you wear a false smile behind such psychological scars. Instead of pretending to be okay, it’s always better to tell your problem to someone to receive help.

Many wish to be someone, because of the extravagant lives other people live. But we must be careful about what we sometimes wish for. We must be content with whatever we have to live a happy life. Don’t let your neighbor’s expensive car, push you to live beyond your means, and put on a fake smile, deceiving people that you are living great, while you know that you are struggling to make ends meet.

In Africa and other countries around the world, many are believed to be sick of HIV but scared to go and see the doctor, because they aren’t ready to be told they have contracted HIV or Aids.  They rather prefer to hide their problems with a fake smile, forgetting that no one drinks medicine on the behalf of a sick person.

To pretend that everything is okay, while suffering, is not good for our health, we must, therefore, confine our problems to those close to us for help and solutions. That’s the only way we can overcome and defeat our problems.

Stay True And Be Confident

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Loneliness can cause depression, you’ve got the power to free yourself from the grip of this enemy.

To be lonely is something many don’t like it, because it can cause depression and escalate to mental disorder. To avoid such state, many make friends, hoping that’s going to give them all the happiness they are looking for. However, we need to be careful sometimes what we wish for, since it’s not everything that glitters is gold.

Some friends can make your life more miserable than when you were lonely. I have seen boys and girls, that grew up from disciplined and respected families, but later became shoplifters, drug addicts, thieves, liars, alcoholics, heavy smokers etc, because of friends they made.

We were once thought at school about creation, how God created man in his own image, causing him to have a deep sleep, to create the wonderful Eve. Today, some scientists continue to rebel against God, changing the mind of many to believe that we are descendants of monkeys or chimpanzee. As a result many have lost faith in the Gospel and do whatever they think it’s right, even though they are on the wrong path.

We continue to see the increase of immorality, love in public, women attending functions without underwear etc, as entertainment, without any regret or remorse, because they think it’s normal. The activities of Sodom of Gomorrah, which led to the destruction of the cities, are now part of our society. Even some pastors have lost focus and now doing many evil things to pleased man instead of God.

Despite all these temptations which continue to steal our joy, forcing us to contemplate of committing suicide and putting us under pressure to join bad friends, there is always a way we can skip such temptations. Quickly adhere to principles in the Bible, to help you determine evil from good and what can give you joy instead of worries. We should learn to be submissive and listen to our superiors. Even though we are imperfect, rebellious hearts can do us more harm than good.

I get goose pimples all over my body, whenever I see handicapped people, including the blind, making name for themselves in sports and other professions. If they have been able to overcome their physical condition problems, to reach the top, would you blame God, friends or yourself if you fail in life? Just stay true, be yourself, no matter what people say. Trust in God and live a clean life. These are the keys to wonderful life and happiness, not a fast car, luxury, beautiful house and lot of money.