She Has No Wings But Wants To Fly

Bitter relationships

A bitter relationship is like a toothache in the middle of the night, the experience is sleepless nights.

“None of my boyfriends stayed with me longer than a year. I have already dated five men, but all of them are gone and still I’m single at  thirty-five.” That’s the statement that pretty lady said to her friend. 

Her friend listens to her with emotions, because she could clearly see how the destructive love life of Tamma, has taken its toll on her best friend. Yes! Tamma has been Paulina’s best friend for over a decade but both have problems they weren’t ready to give up. Pride!

There is no gentleman ready to date a lady full of pride and arrogance. Many don’t know how pride can be destructive. Even though men like to date beautiful ladies, they pray to meet someone humble and submissive.

That doesn’t mean that they want someone weak to dominate. Men can’t stand women that are not ready to accept the mistakes they do. Men are not perfect too and ready to accept mistakes, but many times women are not prepared to accept mistakes because of pride.

It’s a big mistake if you think the dress you wear makes you a lady. Humbleness, respect, smile and good character, are some of the qualities men looking for in women.

Believe me, if you are a woman and don’t have any of these qualities, you are bound to face many obstacles in your relationship. Don’t let your beauty deceive you. You will surely get the man you are looking for today, but you’ll find yourself alone on bed tomorrow.

No matter how beautiful and intelligent you are, don’t let pride overtakes you. Without wings, you may feel like a bird flying high, but at the end of the day, you’ll find yourself at the same place you started. Do away with pride and arrogance and enjoy a better relationship.

How Do You Envisage Your Future In 2016?

Happy New Year

What do we learn in every old year to live better in the new year?

Within a relatively short period from December 31, 2015, to January 1, 2016, many people couldn’t make this cross-over. Through various reasons, including sickness, they lost the battle to see the year 2016.

There is no doubt that we all had both  positive and negative experiences last year, but since you’ve made it to the new year, what are your hopes, dreams, and aspirations? I strongly believe that your dreams can be a reality in the year 2016.

How prepared to improve the soured relationship with the members of your family? How prepared to change your bad habits to enjoy your professional career? How prepared to be humble and respectful, to get the right gentleman or lady as your partner?

How prepared to make this world a better place for our present and future generation, in a world many think violence, crime, and terrorism, are the only solutions for common problems? We can’t remake the world, but our good deeds can change it.

There is every reason to be happy among those that made it to the new year. Your success, happiness, destiny and good health, are in your own hands. Don’t commit any crime when you know that you will be punished and don’t live in the realms of destructive drugs when you know may affect your health.

Instead of blaming others for the destruction of the world, we should take it upon ourselves to restore our nation’s dignity. “Finally, brothers, rejoice. Aim for restoration, comfort one another, agree with one another, live in peace; and the God of love and peace will be with you.” 2 Corinthians 13:11.

Leave The Problems Behind And Take A Positive Step Into The Year 2016

Chearing 1Happiness and togetherness is all that we need to make this world beautiful

Many are  struggling  to overcome anxiety disorder, fear and uncertainty, only to get disappointing results, because crime, violence and terrorism are taking away our peaceful and happy moments.

The problem is that most people find it hard to overcome their fears, because it’s part of who they are. That’s actually a mistake. “No one drinks medicine on the behalf of a sick person,” a Ghanaian proverb, meaning your happiness is in your own hands.

At times sadness, loneliness and depression make us feel miserable and scared, because we don’t know what tomorrow may bring. If you take a wider view of things you could discover that dating and friendships seem to be disappointments. Many are hurt or recovering from love affair disasters. Why must my dates end in this way? This is one of the questions that usually follows.

Many times it may be differences of opinions, careers and misunderstandings, but at times it may turn out to be that the partners don’t like something about each other, especially about his or her character. Humbleness and politeness create a happy environment, but how many people there are polite and humble?

Within some few days, we shall be witnessing the new year (2016). Are you going to carry your problems along with you? We often allow problems to take its toll on us, than finding solutions.

If the blind can play the piano, someone without hands, can open the chapters of a book, with his toes or tongue, then why do you have to grumble when you are physically strong?

The purpose of this article is to encourage, not to discourage. There are many opportunities there for you. Let God be your guide to choose wisely and let your hopes and dreams be a reality in year 2016.

Humour: The Man With A Sad Face

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The man with a sad face

Sometimes before a baby is born, his or her parents had already suggested suitable names for the child. Names are influenced by our popular culture, tradition and heroes. Many people bear Biblical names, others not. As a Ghanaian from the Fantse tribe, my traditional name is Ato or Kwamena, because I was born on Saturday.

Names mean a lot but it’s not everyone who knows someone’s name. That’s the reason we often hear “Please what’s your name?” You may know someone because you’ve seen the person a couple of times, but may not know his or her name. I am one of them. In the neighbourhood where I grew up in Africa, few knew me but don’t know my name.

One day someone I know came looking for me in the neighbourhood where I lived. That was his first attempt to visit me. He mentioned my name, yet no one could help him. One Good Samaritan tried his best to help him. “Can you please describe the man you are looking for,” he asked the stranger. “He is a man with dark complexion, about 5 feet 10 inches tall, whose face looks like someone crying.”

“May be I know him, because there is a man who lives close to the beach, whose face really looks like someone crying, maybe it’s him,” said the Good Samaritan.

“Can we go to see if he is the one,” said the stranger. I was at home when I heard a knock on the door, as soon as I opened, stands Ben, my cousin who lives in the Western Region of Ghana. He narrates the funny description which led to my discovery.

“What, do my face looks like someone crying?” I asked.

“If your face doesn’t look like someone crying, how can this Good Samaritan realize that to come home with me? Ben asked.

This is not a matter of anger but laughter. I laughed so hard that my stomach ached, the fact that Ben has never told me this before. After Ben’s visit, I thought about this for a very long time and decided to get rid of this funny and humourous description about me.

By then I’ve heard of the book called ‘The Power of Positive Thinking” by Norman Vincent Pearle. I contacted a friend who had more books than me and borrowed Norman’s book from him. It was a very thick book but inspiring. “Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.” – Norman Vincent Pearle.

I did really enjoyed reading this interesting book. In fact, I have no words to describe how the book miraculously transformed my life, to get rid of that hidden facial expression which I have lived with for years without my knowledge. Well, it may be that my face still looks like someone crying, because of too much trouble in this world.

Children’s Story: Why The Sheep Often Stands In The Middle Of The Road But The Goat Wouldn’t

Stories play vital role in the lives of children. Years back, our ancestors create stories to entertain children.There are thousands of African stories for children.

Everyone knows how stubborn the Goat is and humble the Sheep is, yet they put aside their differences to become friends.

In an argument, the Goat told the Sheep: “You are very stupid.” And the Sheep told the Goat: “Don’t let my humbleness deceive you, because I’m one of the wisest creatures on earth.”

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The goat escapes through the window of the bus, after failing to pay his fare  for the journey.

“Why are you called ‘The Stubborn Goat? Let me remind you of this reference in Psalm 109:3, about me: The Sheep quotes, “You know that the Lord, he is God! It is he, who made us, and we are his; we are his people, and the sheep of his pasture.” “Because you are stubborn, your reference in the Bible is “Separating Goats from Sheep,” you better change your ways, to inherit the Kingdom of God.” The Sheep concluded.

What the Sheep told Goat, touched him emotionally that he decides to repent and change his ways. He suggested to the Sheep that they should embark on a journey to have a good time, to enable him learn more from him and the Sheep agreed. The fully prepared Sheep took everything he needs for the journey, including money to buy food.

Even though the Goat is aware of what they need for the journey, he took everything and ignored taking some money with him. It seems the greedy and stubborn Goat isn’t yet ready to change his bad habits. Mid way in the journey, the driver’s mate starts collecting the fare from passengers. Everyone in the bus, including Sheep paid, but the Goat told the mate: “My money is deep in my pocket, I will pay you when we reach our destination.”

The driver’s mate refused to accept Goat’s explanation, because he knows how cunning Goat is. He told Goat: “I will only agree to your proposal if you allow me to put this rope around your neck, so that you might not escape.” The answer goat wasn’t expecting made him start sweating profusely. Goat knows that he has no choice than to escape. While the vehicle still in motion, the desperate Goat leaped through one of the opened window’s of the bus, leaving his seat and Sheep behind.

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The sheep stands in the middle of the road waiting for the driver’s mate to collect back his change.

The stupefied Sheep was shocked to the extent that he forgets to collect his change, after making the payment to the driver’s mate, while Goat’s name was added to the wanted people’s list. This is the reason the Goat many times escapes when he sees an approaching vehicle, while Sheep stands in the middle of the street, waiting for the driver’s mate, to collect back his forgotten change.

NB: One of my new projects “Anthology Of African Stories For Children,” comes out next year. (2016) In this book, the writer collects the best inspiring, educative and interesting stories, brewed from African pot, to entertain children all over the world. Let your children enjoy diversity of culture by having a copy of this wonderful book.