ARE YOU EASY TO LIVE WITH?

Sad 6Many are experiencing bitter relationships, but how many of them try to find out the reason things are not going the right way?

Many are raised from different homes, influenced by different  culture, custom and tradition. Thus, living with other people sometimes becomes a very difficult issue, proving that it’s often wrong if we lean on our own understanding. Many times you may think you are right but wrong.

It is very common and part of our everyday life, to see beautiful ladies and gentlemen in town and at the offices. The perfume they wear add glamor to their personalities with sweet charm, but many are experiencing bitter relationships, often taking away their happiness and putting them into a tunnel of misery.

The set up of our homes immediately convey the message to a visitor, nature, and character of those dwelling there and the sort of training or life being acquired from it. Truly, the life and character of a person can easily be determined from the home he or she was raised. Thus, are you one of those hard to live with, because of your bad character or the nature of the home you were raised?

If you are a lady or gentleman in your late thirties and still living single, after many stormy affairs, it’s time to sit quietly and ask: Am I a difficult person to live with? If I am, how can I make things better?

Once in Amsterdam, I shared a kitchen with other tenants living in the apartment. More than a dozen times, I witnessed one of the male tenants spitting into the kitchen sink. A kitchen I cut my meat and do my cooking? I was shocked to the extent that I lost the desire to cook in that kitchen. I couldn’t tell him to stop because I don’t want any confrontation.

This went on and on until one of the tenants caught him in the act again and the confrontation escalated into a physical fight. Eventually, the owner of the apartment who wasn’t pleased with what he did, ejected him from that apartment. How can an adult or fully grown man, lack the intelligence to do something like that without noticing that’s completely wrong?

In another development, a man lost his job because his employers said he stinks. He stood his ground to tell his boss that he is the one that stinks. This bad odor is something I knew, but couldn’t tell him, because there are certain things not easy to speak about it. This is a problem which shows that as human beings we do many things and harbored many bad characters we don’t simply see or notice them.

In the early 2000’s, I nearly lost my job at the restaurant I was working at in Antwerp. One of my female colleague’s armpit stinks very bad. I was finding it difficult to work with her, so I bought her a deodorant to use. The deodorant ended up in the hands of her husband, who came to the office with his wife to see my boss. Luckily, I had already discussed this issue with my boss, thus; I was set free. It was a lesson I’m now very careful about the way I approach things. Some kindness may put you into a very big trouble.

Life is wonderful. Life doesn’t mean suffering but chains of sad and bad events, including bad habits and character, have taken its toll on mankind today, making life worthless to some people. We can make life better and worthy to live, by being humble, eliminating foolish pride, be content with whatever we have and give respect and to love our neighbors.

Online Dating: The Good, The Bad And The Ugly Part Of It

hackerThere are many dangers behind Online Dating one can’t see.

Life can be boring sometimes. Frustration, depression, loneliness, and anxiety, are some of the problems that have taken its toll on many people today, forcing them to ‘Dating Sites,’ hoping that’s the right place to find love and happiness they are looking for. 

The internet has enabled us to see the world through the window, facilitating business, creating easy communication and making friendship easy throughout the globe. But the question is: Is ‘Dating Sites’ actually the right place for someone to look for his or her dream partner? Frankly speaking, dating sites harbored all kinds of dangers many ignore or don’t see because they are simply following their heart’s desire.

I don’t see the distance between two people dating, as one of the disadvantages of online dating if one person lives in Canada and the other lives in England, but the dangers of falling into wrong hands, which have prematurely ended the lives of many and added names of missing people to the missing people’s list.

While on ‘Dating Site,’ your aim is to find a lover, but the man on the other side doesn’t want love, he wants to harm or kill you. How will you know? This is the reason many that answer to online dating, mysteriously disappear without any trace. This makes ‘Dating Sites’ or ‘Blind Date’ more dangerous than imagined.

Once in Amsterdam, I contacted a lady who wants a non-smoker. We made an appointment at the central train station, asking me to be at a very famous point everyone knew. She was late. I watched my time and I realized it was over ten minutes. Then after fifteen minutes, I saw a pretty woman smiling at me. She was gorgeous. Her tall slim figure was the exact choice of a woman I was looking for.

“Are you Joe?” She asked and I nodded.”I have been here already but spying on you to see if you are a handsome man. I really hate ugly and shabbily dressed men.” She said. “What a bad woman? Is that what men or women do to each other on blind-date?” I asked in mind. Now I know the reason many dates end in disappointment. They came and probably saw the person unattractive and quietly sneaked away? Who will be happy when treated like that? In fact, the statement she made ruined my day. After eating and a walk through the city, I didn’t request for a second date. That’s how we lost contact.

There is nothing wrong when doing online dating, but be extremely careful, because what you are looking for might be completely different from what the person you are communicating with wants. There are some recommended steps which can keep one far from loneliness and depression. Reading interesting books as a hobby can capture your imagination to avoid depression and loneliness.

If you love to stay at home, please cultivate the habit of taking a walk through the gardens, doing window shopping, joining social clubs. Going to the gym to exercise once or twice a week doesn’t only keep you fit but also psychologically healthy. Who knows you will meet the right person in those places? You may have a hidden talent but you don’t know. Find out what you are very good at, follow it and start blogging to create your happiness.

 

You’ve Got The Power To Liberate Yourself From Depression

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Suicide is not a solution to free yourself from the world’s problems

Everyone has wonderful hopes, dreams, and expectations of their future, but many times what we are looking for never come our way. Some of us have been robbed of our joy through the loss of a loved one and many feel lonely and hopeless when they find themselves in abusive homes and domestic violence.

In such a troubled world, it’s very easy to see the ailments of the society taking its toll on people. The high rate of unemployment and divorce, are also some of the causes leading to depression. It’s not surprised that psychologists have confirmed that the ailments of people can be traced from the homes and environment they were raised.

We understand that as human beings, we are bound to face difficulties in our lives, the important question is: How do we handle those problems we experience? According to World Federation for Mental Health, depression is a significant contributor to the global burden of disease and affects people in all communities across the world.

Today, depression is estimated to affect 350 million people. The World Mental Health Survey conducted in 17 countries found that on average about 1 in 20 people reported having an episode of depression. But do you know that you have the power to overcome loneliness and depression?

Why some people easily succumbed to depression and others able to resist? The happy people we often meet on the street are not super humans. They are only happy because experience in life has taught them that happiness is yourself. Someone can make you unhappy, prevent your success, or do everything to hurt you, but so long as you are a living being, you have the power, desire, inspiration or everything it takes to liberate yourself from that misery, loneliness or depression.

Fear, anxiety, depression and loneliness can easily be prevented than you know. Instead of living on drugs and alcohol, which rather increase your psychological problems, there are some recommended steps which can keep one far from loneliness and depression. Reading interesting books as a hobby can capture your imagination to avoid depression.

If you love to stay at home, please cultivate the habit of taking a walk through the gardens, doing window shopping, joining social clubs. Going to the gym to exercise once or twice a week doesn’t only keep you fit but also psychologically healthy. You may have a hidden talent but you don’t know. Find out what you are very good at, follow it and start blogging to create your happiness.

Another important factor is financial matters, which often wear people down psychologically. When facing financial problems, you need a healthy mind to find your way out not a depressed mind.  I can’t do it, I’m not sure I can succeed, there is nothing left for me in life, are all ‘symptoms’ of depression. Take away the shackle off your body and free mind from the psychological chain damaging your health.

Valentine’s Day Special: How Inexperienced Love Life, Moulded To Love Only One Woman

adore 5At school, while very young, I heard of the word ‘Womanizer.’ I had no idea what that means, so I took the dictionary and read ” A man who likes many women and has short sexual relationships with them.” I said to myself, that’s not the way I would like to live, especially in those days when Gonorrhea is very common.

At 19, I was still a celibate and hadn’t tasted the ‘golden apple,’ yet, surprisingly, I had no desire to find out how ‘delicious or sour it may be.’ I often hear some of my friends, talking about their girlfriends, and wonder how they had them.

Without even searching for a girlfriend, I had one during school athletics competition. Extremely beautiful dark complexioned girl called Esther. Any time she puts her hand around my neck, I feel something in my breast pocket. It was money.

I was just proud to have a girlfriend and I spoke about her to my classmates, but very green, I didn’t give her what often happens when a door is closed behind a man and a woman. After Esther, came Lydia. She was actually the first girl who thought me how to do it at the age of twenty. The contents of her love letters made me to believe that she graduated from a ‘Love School.’

When I saw her naked body, I gazed at her like Adam gazing at ‘The Apple of Temptation’ on the tree. She laid down and I took my position. But inexperienced Joe was just on top of her motionless, waiting for a miracle to take place . She then asked me to jerk my body up and down.

After following her instructions, I started feeling something unusual flowing through my body like electric current. This unusual feeling is hard to describe. Like one under a trance, I don’t think I would have got the energy to escape if a charged elephant or a wild lion is coming my way. After some few minutes, I felt like I’m in a perfect place of  happiness, paradise. I wasn’t aware that this inexperienced love life is going to help me one day.

From there on, struggling to be a man was my priority, than having a girlfriend, until I got married in my thirties. After marriage, I realized the importance, gem and quality of a woman. The long years without a woman moulded me to treasure my wife, making it totally impossible to love any woman apart from her.

To many, cheating is the best part of relationship, because it’s nice to taste different kinds of food. But just as a man gets food poisoning and diarrhea after eating contaminated food, the same way a man can expose himself to sexually transmitted diseases, then wished you had never done, but it’s too late.

There are many ways to adore your girlfriend or partner for ever. Whenever you’re watching an interesting film or program on the television, don’t lose all your interest to the program. Steal a minute to look at your man or woman. He or she will ask you: Why are you looking at me like that? “I love you,” say to him or her.

Little things in life improve relationship than being rich. There are many domestic activities. Share those responsibilities with your partner. If she does the laundry, do the pressing and if she does the shopping, surprise her with a delicious breakfast preparations. Above all try to maintain respect and remain faithful to each other, even though to err is human.

Spend Your Money On Bread And Water Not Sickness

steakHealthy food can keep you free from hospital every time.

The immune system is made up of special cells, proteins, tissues, and organs, which defends people against germs and microorganisms every day. In most cases, the immune system does a great job of keeping people healthy and preventing infections.

People therefore have the best chance to enjoy a perfect healthy life, but the creation of man-made diseases, to generate profit through pharmaceutical companies and the constant abuse of the body with dangerous products, have taken its toll on the health of humanity and the cost is taking both the wealthy and the poor to the land of pain and poverty.

Abuse and the crave of things unhealthy for the body, have put our lives at stake. Large consumption of alcohol can affect ones health, yet people don’t care. Cocaine and other dangerous substances aren’t good for the health, but many don’t care. It is written on cigarette’s box ‘The surgeon general warns, cigarette smoking is dangerous,’ yet many ignored this warning and become human chimney.

People drink heavily and get kidney problems, while others get cancer for long smoking. This can be prevented. The happiness in life isn’t always being rich or living in luxury, because many are rich but suffering because of poor health. If you have good health, you will feel good and happy, even if you are not rich.

Someone can drive your car, cook for you, do your laundry and iron your clothes, but no one can bear your sickness or drink medicine on your behalf. This is the reason one needs to live clean, because life is precious. Spend your money on healthy food, drink and avoid making friend with the drug store. They are happy when they see you coming for medicines, because the corrupt medical system made it so.

Tourism: Step Into The Paradise Taste Of Tropical Fruits In Ghana

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Home sweet home: Joel Savage enjoys the sweet juicy water of fresh coconut.

The axiom, “All work and no play, makes Jack a dull boy” might have originally been conceived by a domestic idealist, who knows the truth. Working hard without a break can affect your health. The impact can take its toll on you.

This is the reason I decided to visit my mother at the age of 80, in Ghana, after five years. Seeing her grey hair, but strong and healthy, boosted my happiness. In my daily prayers I always ask God to give her long life, to enjoy her fruits of labour, and it seems He has answered my prayers.

My mother after losing her husband at the age of 44, in 1976, (The Writer Died) https://goo.gl/hLBqj4, left with eight children, without any support, took the responsibility alone to make sure that we were fed, clothed, accommodated and educated.

In Ghana, I visited many places including the Cape Coast castle, in the central region of Ghana and some villages, such as ‘Akatechiwa’ which has intriguing story leading to the village’s name. I will be sharing all the interesting articles pertaining my visit with you very soon on social media.

Apart from my adventure and exploration, I enjoyed the fresh tropical fruits, such as coconut, mango, sweet apple etc. Many in foreign countries, such as Europeans and Americans may have the experience of tasting juicy canned tropical fruits, but nothing compares to the original fresh taste of tropical fruits taken moments from the trees in Ghana or Africa generally.

Many Europeans and Americans yearly make a trip to Ghana to explore its ancient castles and forts and some have settled finally in the country, saying good bye to Europe and America. Don’t let the foreign media deceive you. Be part of those visiting Ghana.

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The Coconut tree: I know that there are thousands of readers interested in non-fiction genre of books, thus; one of my goals is to share my non-fiction books through diversity of culture. My utterly and compelling collections are destined to capture the reader’s attention and interest, to learn about other people’s culture and heritage.

My books are in the categories of travel, immigration, health and entertainment. The personal account of the stories reflect on the places I visited in Africa, such as Ghana, Guinea, Nigeria, Ivory Coast, Sierra Leone, Togo, Benin and Gambia. And in Europe, it’s about life in Barcelona, Spain, Aahus, Denmark, England, Amsterdam, Holland, Rome, Italy and Antwerp, Belgium.

The African stories act like a guide to European and Americans tourists. The books will teach you how to avoid being a victim to thieves, armed robbers and immigration crooks, that prey on nationals and foreigners, while the Europeans stories teach Africans how to survive in Europe, without papers and crime.

How Do You Envisage Your Future In 2016?

Happy New Year

What do we learn in every old year to live better in the new year?

Within a relatively short period from December 31, 2015, to January 1, 2016, many people couldn’t make this cross-over. Through various reasons, including sickness, they lost the battle to see the year 2016.

There is no doubt that we all had both  positive and negative experiences last year, but since you’ve made it to the new year, what are your hopes, dreams, and aspirations? I strongly believe that your dreams can be a reality in the year 2016.

How prepared to improve the soured relationship with the members of your family? How prepared to change your bad habits to enjoy your professional career? How prepared to be humble and respectful, to get the right gentleman or lady as your partner?

How prepared to make this world a better place for our present and future generation, in a world many think violence, crime, and terrorism, are the only solutions for common problems? We can’t remake the world, but our good deeds can change it.

There is every reason to be happy among those that made it to the new year. Your success, happiness, destiny and good health, are in your own hands. Don’t commit any crime when you know that you will be punished and don’t live in the realms of destructive drugs when you know may affect your health.

Instead of blaming others for the destruction of the world, we should take it upon ourselves to restore our nation’s dignity. “Finally, brothers, rejoice. Aim for restoration, comfort one another, agree with one another, live in peace; and the God of love and peace will be with you.” 2 Corinthians 13:11.