Online Dating: The Good, The Bad And The Ugly Part Of It

hackerThere are many dangers behind Online Dating one can’t see.

Life can be boring sometimes. Frustration, depression, loneliness, and anxiety, are some of the problems that have taken its toll on many people today, forcing them to ‘Dating Sites,’ hoping that’s the right place to find love and happiness they are looking for. 

The internet has enabled us to see the world through the window, facilitating business, creating easy communication and making friendship easy throughout the globe. But the question is: Is ‘Dating Sites’ actually the right place for someone to look for his or her dream partner? Frankly speaking, dating sites harbored all kinds of dangers many ignore or don’t see because they are simply following their heart’s desire.

I don’t see the distance between two people dating, as one of the disadvantages of online dating if one person lives in Canada and the other lives in England, but the dangers of falling into wrong hands, which have prematurely ended the lives of many and added names of missing people to the missing people’s list.

While on ‘Dating Site,’ your aim is to find a lover, but the man on the other side doesn’t want love, he wants to harm or kill you. How will you know? This is the reason many that answer to online dating, mysteriously disappear without any trace. This makes ‘Dating Sites’ or ‘Blind Date’ more dangerous than imagined.

Once in Amsterdam, I contacted a lady who wants a non-smoker. We made an appointment at the central train station, asking me to be at a very famous point everyone knew. She was late. I watched my time and I realized it was over ten minutes. Then after fifteen minutes, I saw a pretty woman smiling at me. She was gorgeous. Her tall slim figure was the exact choice of a woman I was looking for.

“Are you Joe?” She asked and I nodded.”I have been here already but spying on you to see if you are a handsome man. I really hate ugly and shabbily dressed men.” She said. “What a bad woman? Is that what men or women do to each other on blind-date?” I asked in mind. Now I know the reason many dates end in disappointment. They came and probably saw the person unattractive and quietly sneaked away? Who will be happy when treated like that? In fact, the statement she made ruined my day. After eating and a walk through the city, I didn’t request for a second date. That’s how we lost contact.

There is nothing wrong when doing online dating, but be extremely careful, because what you are looking for might be completely different from what the person you are communicating with wants. There are some recommended steps which can keep one far from loneliness and depression. Reading interesting books as a hobby can capture your imagination to avoid depression and loneliness.

If you love to stay at home, please cultivate the habit of taking a walk through the gardens, doing window shopping, joining social clubs. Going to the gym to exercise once or twice a week doesn’t only keep you fit but also psychologically healthy. Who knows you will meet the right person in those places? You may have a hidden talent but you don’t know. Find out what you are very good at, follow it and start blogging to create your happiness.

 

Culture Or Religion Should Not Be Used By Man To Impose Duties

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Domination is not part of any true religion: It’s only a cruel and heartless man will be happy to see his wife dressed like that in the scorching sun.

Many writers are inspired by other writers. I get my inspiration by reading the Bible and comments by my readers. The reason many times I make reference to the Gospel. In the beginning, God created everything and gave man dominion over all things, but the greed of man hasn’t only brought hardships, sin, and rebellion in this word but also domination and crime.

In many parts of the world, women can’t have education, they can’t wear trousers, they can’t work, they can’t drive and they have to cover themselves from head to toe. Why, because religion says so? If women are to stay at home without education, who are going to be the doctors, engineers, and pilots after all the men have been killed in war?

“A woman is a flower in the middle of the garden and the man is the fence around it.” This is one of the African proverbs indicating how precious a woman is. Unfortunately, it is now the opposite. Women now sit outside the fence without any protection, suffering all kinds of tragedies, including rape, sexual harassment, domestic violence, and domination.

The greed of man is so enormous that it has no boundary, shifting to religion. Many Muslim men marry girls underage and they think it’s okay. How can a forty-five-year-old man marry a thirteen or fourteen-year-old girl? This is a crime. Such person should be thrown into jail for the rest of his life because he has slept with a girl who can be his daughter. They force to marry and when the woman says no, they throw acid on her face.

When Taliban came to power in Afghanistan, especially in Helmand Province, women have to cover their entire body. They are caned and stoned in public as if the executioners have never committed any sin from childbirth. On October 29, 2015, I wrote an article discouraging ‘Female Circumcision’ because it’s barbarism and cruelty against women. I received only two comments on this article but one of them touched me to share this article.

I quote “Any culture or religion should not be used by man to impose duties, discriminating, disparities and unfounded, but to protect the creatures, to give them serenity and comfort in suffering, indicate paths of joy, respecting the nature of corporeal living, always in agreement with this nature,” says erospea.wordpress.com , a lady hosting an Italian blog.

We have been told and heard many times that Islam is a religion of peace, but some people have shown us the cruelty and oppressive nature of Islam against women and beheading of Christians. Imagine in an Islamic country, which women are not allowed to mingle with men or work, so the shops have been taken over by men that sell women underwear and bra. The male shop assistant stares at the woman finding the right size of bra. What a world of hypocrisy?

Religion doesn’t mean oppression. If the Bible or Koran demands women to be submissive to their husbands doesn’t mean that women are deemed to be inferior to men or should be oppressed. The Koran says “There is no salvation for a man or a nation who allows women to rule over them.” I don’t think so. Men have dominated man to his injury, they should, therefore, give women the chance to heal the world.

What Is It Like To Be A Woman?

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One of Marilyn Monroe’s quote which reveals how unique, special and different a woman is.

I am a married man for the past 21 years, yet I can’t say I know a lot about women. My wife gets angry with me sometimes, when I know I’m right and she is wrong. But since I don’t want to lean upon my understanding, which may be wrong, I quickly apologize to her to create a happy atmosphere once again.

I work at a place with over forty female teachers. I ‘m always scared to smile, paranoid maybe, because I don’t want any of the ladies there to have in mind that I want her. I, therefore, maintain a serious mood at my workplace. Unfortunately, I was doing more harm to myself than good.

In the first year, I realized pure hatred from some of the teachers towards me. Action speaks louder than words, so don’t ask me how I know that they hate me, please. In fact, some people can’t control their emotions when they hate you. Many pretend they haven’t seen me, even though I’m very close to those tempting bodies, fashion and magic perfumes.

The hate towards me increased to a certain level that I decided to find a solution immediately, to present myself a faithful and trustful person among them. I started greeting those I’ve never greeted at the school before. Some just walked away without response but some gave me recognition and responded. That encouraged me to continue the greetings.

Did I forget myself as an African, when there is a proverb in Africa that says a woman is a beautiful flower in the middle of the garden and the man is the fence around it? Did I also forget that in Mexico, it is said men that treat women very good were brought up by queens?

“If she’s amazing, she won’t be easy. If she’s easy, she won’t be amazing. If she’s worth it, you won’t give up. If you give up, you’re not worthy. … Truth is, everybody is going to hurt you; you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for.” Did I also forget this great quote from the reggae legend, Bob Marley?

Once you have a clean heart and ready to change things in your life, you will be successful. I became friendlier with a broad smile on my face daily. Once I met one of the ladies who hate me most, with a cup of coffee in one hand and books in the other hand, trying to open a door and I rushed like the late Christopher Reeve in his Super Man series, to open the door for her.

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An African proverb revealing the greatness and importance of a woman in the society.

It was that very day, she asked of my name and she told me hers. Since then we communicate regularly and laugh over many things. In life, never judge a woman wrongly. Like every human being, some are introverts and others extrovert. Some may be very quiet but that doesn’t mean that they hate you, while others quickly engage in conversation with you.

So what is it like to be a woman? Don’t feel great or superior to a woman. Respect her opinion and don’t underestimate her. That will open the way to know her very well to understand the sort of creatures women are.

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