Your Enemy Gets Mad, If He Fails To See You The Way He Wants

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No one gives birth to a child and name him or her ‘Enemy,’ thus; I haven’t met anyone yet called ‘Enemy.’ Yet an enemy exists, the reason the dictionary defines it: As a person who is actively opposed or hostile to someone or something.

What causes enmity between people? I watched a program of a man that hates his neighbour. According to him, his neighbour’s stereo was too noisy and many times when he asks him to reduce the volume he refuses to yield to his demand.

I understand him, especially after the week’s hard work, you wish to have a happy and quiet lovely weekend, reading your favourite books and newspapers, but that neighbour of yours has denied you all those good moments you’re longing for.

At times you might be an enemy or someone might hate you for doing no wrong, just because of your efforts to live a happy life. Do you know that your hard work can sometimes spark jealousy and hatred from an empire of deceitful enemies?

Do you know that even your successful marriage sometimes makes you an enemy, because your neighbour’s marriage is on the rocks? How do you handle such situations when you haven’t done anything wrong but someone madly hates you?

I do hear people often say: The problem was beyond my control, the reason I used food as a means of consolation, became an alcoholic or drug addict. That’s really a big mistake. When you’re experiencing problems, you don’t live on destructive measures to solve your problems, you need to fight those destructive elements.

Years back when I arrived in Europe, among other foreigners, I came to Italy at a time I don’t know anyone. I slept at the Central Train Station in Rome for many days. (I have revisited Rome to see where I slept in the early nineties) I saw that the hard conditions were taking its toll on some of the homeless Africans.

Some became alcoholics, drug addicts, involved in drug trafficking and some decided to go back to Africa. I encouraged them to stay but many of them returned to Africa. Today, I’m no more an illegal immigrant. Above all, I live with my wife and three children in Europe. I wake up every morning at 5 AM and go to work like other workers, enjoying happy union with my family when I’m come at back home.

I know what the enemy wants. I wasn’t ready to be a destitute, alcoholic, drug addict or courier. If I have made it, then you can. Never blame anyone for your failure in life. Don’t let your enemy be happy. Fight those destructive forces to make them mad.

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My Name Is Savage, But I am Not Savage

Big Joe 5“Whatever happens to me benefits me.” – Joel Savage

Why many do ask me if ‘Savage’ is my real name? Once a British woman told me she hates her name ‘Mrs Ball’ and worst of all, my father’s name is ‘Mr. Underworld,’  she said. Yes, many of us have strange names. Some do change and others keep them.

I was born Joel Savage, at Cape Coast, in the central region of Ghana, on January 19, 1957, to Justin Savage, a professional journalist and Nancy-Elizabeth Hudson, an accomplished seamstress and a sewing teacher.

Last year, during my summer holidays in Barcelona, Spain, I gave one of my books to a student I met at the hotel I lodged. At the computer hall, I was flabbergasted when I saw his friends laughing at my name. I pretended I wasn’t listening to their conversation.

Then on January 1, 2016, history repeats itself. At the Kotoka International Airport in Accra, Ghana, when ready to board my flight, an officer at the last checkpoint controlled my passport and the only question he threw at me is: How do you pronounce this word? Pointing directly to the name, “Savage,” I answered.

“Well, I’m glad that you mentioned it yourself, because I thought that may provoke you if I had said the same thing.” He said and gave back my passport to me.

If names have impact on people, then I am exceptional. I am happily married since 1993 and still live with the same woman. If I’m savage, uncivilized, cruel or a beast, my wife wouldn’t have been with me today. My three sons can stand behind me and tell everyone how caring and compassionate their father is.

What I know about myself is, I have intrepid sort of character. I don’t give up and no one can break me down physically, psychologically, emotionally or spiritually. In my life, I take any misfortune as beneficial and every problem as a challenge, because you can’t survive in this world if you submit to problems.

This is the reason many people are depressed, alcoholics or drug addicts. Because they don’t have the will power to fight and overcome those destructive tendencies. Savage is just a name but it has no influence on me. I believe in God and the Bible is my shield and Armour.

10 Reasons Never Wish To Be A Celebrity

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Actress Winona Ryder, stole over $5,000 worth of designer clothing and accessories at the Beverly Hills Saks Fifth Avenue in 2001, despite all the fame and ‘success.’

Here comes a celebrity in glamorous dress, she wants to fly, yet she has no wings. The hungry paparazzi follow them where ever they go. Their names make the headlines in newspapers and faces appear on the television every time. That’s great isn’t it? And you wished to be one of them isn’t is? You can only taste a food before discovering how delicious or sour it tastes, because aroma or sweet scent can be deceiving.

Life is tough, so everyone wants to be successful, thus; many wish to be someone. Be careful what you wish for. If you haven’t been to someone’s farm before, you may think your farm is the biggest. No matter the weight of the problem, when hear someone’story, you’ll know that your problem is just as small as an ant or the tip of the iceberg.

Be content with what you have. Don’t be deceived. Who feels it knows it. Many smile behind suffering and live above their means, but your comfort, success and happiness, lie in your own hands. Below are ten reasons never wish to be a celebrity.

  1. Due to the thirst for fame and the desire to do something no other celebrity has done, they end up putting on degrading clothes they called it modern fashion.
  2. Many abuse the precious dignity of women by attending functions without underwear and they called it “Women Empowerment.”
  3. Many live beyond their means, buying expensive jewels, cars, houses etc; then later cry at home when running financially dry. Those in that situation often end up in shoplifting scandals.
  4. Most celebrities live in debt. The result is restlessness and lack of sleep.
  5. Many can’t handle fame, thus; they end up as drug addicts and alcoholics and often against the law.
  6. Some celebrities end up at rehabilitation centers, hospital and many commit suicide.
  7. Some date so many men and women to the extent that, by the time they are serious to settle and get married, nobody wants them, because they have misused their bodies.
  8. When many are bored, they take naked pictures of themselves and post it on social platforms.
  9. The fear of lacking behind in something or being forgotten by fans haunts them; therefore many do stupid things to attract media attention.
  10. Only few celebrities acknowledge God’s presence, as the omnipotent and depend on the gospel for salvation. Because of fame and pride many think God don’t exist and everything he or she owns comes from their effort.

There is nothing better than aiming high, following your dreams to be successful in whatever you want to achieve, but when pursuing that career, create a good name and inspire other people to follow you, because after your departure from this world, the seed you’ve sown, is what people would talk about. Would that seed be good or a bad one?

Pioneering Your Career Unparalleled In Today’s Job Market

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The definition of ‘life’ is defined in many ways by different dictionaries. My explanation for what life is: Someone taking a journey. If he drives carefully, he reaches his destination safely and if he drives recklessly, he ends up in a ditch or even dies. Everyone has a problem and many times psychologists and psychiatrists traced the cause of the problems to our homes.

Many were born in broken homes and daily abused by alcoholic parents. At school children becomes subject to bullies, racism, discrimination and all kinds of mental torture, leaving them psychological scars, sometimes for the rest of their lives. Even some children born handicap, feel discriminated and shunned by society.

Others suffering from ailments and diseases such as Aids, are completely cut off from society and friends, instead of the love they deserve to pass through the hard times of their lives. Going through such life difficulties: Do you know that you have the courage and willpower to deal with your problems and be whatever you want to be in the society?

Why do you allow problems to take over your life and sell your body when you have a beautiful future ahead of you? Why do you sell drugs for living when there are many opportunities to lift you up from that situation? No matter how serious your situation is, always remember that: you’ve got the power to change your life to be a great person in the society.

That’s where career planning comes in and in fact planning your career isn’t a difficult task or needs skills. You only have to list your interests and choose one to pursue. Many times when writing articles, I love to share my experience. Belgium is not like America, Canada or even Netherlands, countries which have many opportunities for the black man.

I have seen many black journalists in neighboring Holland, America, France, Canada etc, but in Belgium for the past fifteen years, I haven’t seen any black journalist on their television yet. That doesn’t bother me any way, it rather encourages me to focus on my career to become a successful writer, and one thing which I did to avoid depression and to concentrate on my goals is to look for a job as a cleaner.

Even though I have a forklift driving license, I gave up the job and took cleaning as my profession. I clean eight hours per day and write my books at the same time. Just find yourself something to do, no matter how poor the job is and earn something monthly. That will lift up your spirit to be happy to do whatever you want in life.

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The world is full of glamorous and beautiful people. We watch film and musicians performing daily on stage or on the television, yet you wouldn’t believe your ears, when you hear of what some of the celebrities went through when they were young. Charlize Theron, one of the successful film actresses, father was alcoholic. Together with her mother, they were abused by her father, yet she put all that behind her to be a great actress today.

Christina Aguilera confessed about how her father physically abused her mother, sister and herself. Rihanna’s childhood was badly affected due to her father’s drug addiction. Today both Christina and Rihanna are successful as musicians. The ultimate question is, would you allow your problems to kill you or determined to kill the problems?

Life is short but while in this world, you can change the world with your knowledge. Crime does’t pay, education is the key, but if it eludes you, another door is open. Cultivate your talent and pray, because through Christ who strengthens us, we can do everything. My life story about how I made it as a writer and journalist in Belgium, going as far as to investigate the high death rate of Africans at the notorious Stuivenberg hospital in Antwerp and brought it to an end, can be read in the book:

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http://www.amazon.com/Little-Boygium–Wonderful-Experience-Savage/dp/1621372383/