Valentine’s Day Special: How Inexperienced Love Life, Moulded To Love Only One Woman

adore 5At school, while very young, I heard of the word ‘Womanizer.’ I had no idea what that means, so I took the dictionary and read ” A man who likes many women and has short sexual relationships with them.” I said to myself, that’s not the way I would like to live, especially in those days when Gonorrhea is very common.

At 19, I was still a celibate and hadn’t tasted the ‘golden apple,’ yet, surprisingly, I had no desire to find out how ‘delicious or sour it may be.’ I often hear some of my friends, talking about their girlfriends, and wonder how they had them.

Without even searching for a girlfriend, I had one during school athletics competition. Extremely beautiful dark complexioned girl called Esther. Any time she puts her hand around my neck, I feel something in my breast pocket. It was money.

I was just proud to have a girlfriend and I spoke about her to my classmates, but very green, I didn’t give her what often happens when a door is closed behind a man and a woman. After Esther, came Lydia. She was actually the first girl who thought me how to do it at the age of twenty. The contents of her love letters made me to believe that she graduated from a ‘Love School.’

When I saw her naked body, I gazed at her like Adam gazing at ‘The Apple of Temptation’ on the tree. She laid down and I took my position. But inexperienced Joe was just on top of her motionless, waiting for a miracle to take place . She then asked me to jerk my body up and down.

After following her instructions, I started feeling something unusual flowing through my body like electric current. This unusual feeling is hard to describe. Like one under a trance, I don’t think I would have got the energy to escape if a charged elephant or a wild lion is coming my way. After some few minutes, I felt like I’m in a perfect place of  happiness, paradise. I wasn’t aware that this inexperienced love life is going to help me one day.

From there on, struggling to be a man was my priority, than having a girlfriend, until I got married in my thirties. After marriage, I realized the importance, gem and quality of a woman. The long years without a woman moulded me to treasure my wife, making it totally impossible to love any woman apart from her.

To many, cheating is the best part of relationship, because it’s nice to taste different kinds of food. But just as a man gets food poisoning and diarrhea after eating contaminated food, the same way a man can expose himself to sexually transmitted diseases, then wished you had never done, but it’s too late.

There are many ways to adore your girlfriend or partner for ever. Whenever you’re watching an interesting film or program on the television, don’t lose all your interest to the program. Steal a minute to look at your man or woman. He or she will ask you: Why are you looking at me like that? “I love you,” say to him or her.

Little things in life improve relationship than being rich. There are many domestic activities. Share those responsibilities with your partner. If she does the laundry, do the pressing and if she does the shopping, surprise her with a delicious breakfast preparations. Above all try to maintain respect and remain faithful to each other, even though to err is human.

Your Enemy Gets Mad, If He Fails To See You The Way He Wants

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No one gives birth to a child and name him or her ‘Enemy,’ thus; I haven’t met anyone yet called ‘Enemy.’ Yet an enemy exists, the reason the dictionary defines it: As a person who is actively opposed or hostile to someone or something.

What causes enmity between people? I watched a program of a man that hates his neighbour. According to him, his neighbour’s stereo was too noisy and many times when he asks him to reduce the volume he refuses to yield to his demand.

I understand him, especially after the week’s hard work, you wish to have a happy and quiet lovely weekend, reading your favourite books and newspapers, but that neighbour of yours has denied you all those good moments you’re longing for.

At times you might be an enemy or someone might hate you for doing no wrong, just because of your efforts to live a happy life. Do you know that your hard work can sometimes spark jealousy and hatred from an empire of deceitful enemies?

Do you know that even your successful marriage sometimes makes you an enemy, because your neighbour’s marriage is on the rocks? How do you handle such situations when you haven’t done anything wrong but someone madly hates you?

I do hear people often say: The problem was beyond my control, the reason I used food as a means of consolation, became an alcoholic or drug addict. That’s really a big mistake. When you’re experiencing problems, you don’t live on destructive measures to solve your problems, you need to fight those destructive elements.

Years back when I arrived in Europe, among other foreigners, I came to Italy at a time I don’t know anyone. I slept at the Central Train Station in Rome for many days. (I have revisited Rome to see where I slept in the early nineties) I saw that the hard conditions were taking its toll on some of the homeless Africans.

Some became alcoholics, drug addicts, involved in drug trafficking and some decided to go back to Africa. I encouraged them to stay but many of them returned to Africa. Today, I’m no more an illegal immigrant. Above all, I live with my wife and three children in Europe. I wake up every morning at 5 AM and go to work like other workers, enjoying happy union with my family when I’m come at back home.

I know what the enemy wants. I wasn’t ready to be a destitute, alcoholic, drug addict or courier. If I have made it, then you can. Never blame anyone for your failure in life. Don’t let your enemy be happy. Fight those destructive forces to make them mad.

Tame Your Tongue: The Mouth Is A Trouble Seeker

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According to the Cambridge English dictionary, the definition of the mouth is: The ​opening in the ​face of a ​person or ​animal, consisting of the ​lips and the ​space between them, or the ​space behind ​containing the ​teeth and the ​tongue. Other dictionaries simply define the mouth as: The opening through which food passes into the body.

I don’t agree with any of these definitions, because to me they are incomplete. If I were to define “The Mouth,” it should be: A small opening through which food passes into the body, speech; singing and noise are made and at the same time can put someone into a very big trouble.

The mouth serves man in his speech. He gets satisfaction after eating and drinking water. The beautiful songs or melodious tunes with words of comfort, all come from the mouth, making life worthy and happy to live, yet the same mouth can give one a lot of discomfort, worries, troubles, and even imprisonment.

In the Bible, there are so many warnings and pieces of advice over how people should tame the tongue. Here are just two of them. ‘Whoever keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble. Proverbs 21:23. Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. Ephesians 4:29.

In 1999, Glenn Hoddle lost his job as a coach to the England national team, after a shocking comment against disabled people. According to Glenn Hoddle “Disabled people are paying for sins in previous life.” Many people and the media rose against him, resulting to his dismissal from work. This is a typical example of the trouble the mouth can cause. Total disgrace and embarrassment aren’t it?

Bad comments always appear on social media and many passed unnoticed, but Liam Stacey spent 56 days in jail over his racial tweet against Bolton player Fabrice Muamba. Fabrice collapsed on the soccer field while playing, if Liam wasn’t prepared to wish him a speedy recovery, he shouldn’t say anything bad against the footballer at the point of death, instead he posted racial remarks on Twitter, provoking many people around the world.

This is not the first and the last careless talk or speech has cost people’s job or led one into jail. There is trouble brewing in every part of the world, and people’s life has been turned upside down, all because of what someone said to someone. I can say that there are two kinds of people. Those who think before they speak and those who speak before they think.

The latter one is those who are likely to be in trouble over what they say. In my country, there is a proverb which says “If you see a stone with a beard, just watch it and go. Don’t speak. This proverb is a warning to people who can’t shut their mouth.

There are many people who love to speak about other people. Even at work, many like to report other workers to the boss. In fact, just as some people are addicted to drug and alcohol, there are people also addicted to talking about other people. It’s their hobby and therefore can never stop.

Staying out of trouble is a simple rule to follow, yet many find it difficult to be trouble free. One of the rules which could keep people out of trouble is the practice of listening than speaking. An empty barrel makes a great noise. In life, great people do not speak much. They learn by listening.

It is better to be quiet for people to call you unsocial than to be called a gossiper, talkative and inquisitive. Proverbs 17:28. ‘Even a fool who keeps silent is considered wise, when he closes his lips, he is deemed intelligent.’