Why Do Some People Risk It All To Cheat To Be Famous?

Johnson 5Cyclist Lance Armstrong, athlete Ben Johnson and author E.J. Ellory, deceived the world to the top, before their cups were full.

Do you feel restless and uneasy at times, because you want to achieve something but you feel lacking behind? Do you feel scared of failure in whatever you want to achieve in life sometimes, because things are not moving in your favour? Do you feel stagnant without progress in whatever project you are handling? It is part of life since people are passionate about things and as human beings we are likely to feel this way sometimes.

The question is: When engulfed in such times of uncertainty and fear, how do we handle it? People are dying to be famous. In pursuit of fame and success many take certain short routes which put them into shameful situations they have to live with it for the rest of their lives. No easy way to success. Success usually comes through hard work and sacrifice but why do some people prefer to cheat?

Ben Johnson

In 1988, Ben ‘The Bullet’ Johnson recorded one of the fastest times in athletic history in Seoul Olympic Games, after winning 100m gold medal.   The Canadian was stripped of his 100m gold medal after testing positive for drugs. Johnson claimed that herbal drink he consumed before the race caused his downfall, but the Olympic Committee didn’t accept this.

Samples of Johnson’s urine were tested for drugs immediately the third day after the 100m final which he won in a world record time of 9.79 seconds. Olympic officials confirmed that traces of the anabolic steroid, Stanozol, were found in his system. “A tragedy for Johnson and a great sadness for all Canadians,” said Canada’s Prime Minister Brian Mulroney.

Ben Johnson’s drug scandal was neither the first nor the last. Many athletes failed drug tests, including Marion Jones, who used banned substances.

Lance Armstrong has hundreds of fans worldwide, because great people inspire others. At the peak of his successful career, he placed eleventh in the World Championship Road Race with the best time of any American since 1976. From 1999 to 2005, Lance Armstrong consecutively won seven Tour de France titles, giving hope to other cancer patients as a cancer survivor. After a successful career, the US Anti-Doping Agency stripped him of his seven tour titles he had won and banned him from competing in cycling for life.

According to the Anti-Doping Agency, Lance Armstrong had used banned performance enhancing substances during the years of his career. Armstrong prior has vehemently denied the claims until January 2013, admitted to doping throughout his entire cycling career., leaving his fans miserably disappointed, as he steps down as chairman of the Livestrong cancer-awareness charity he founded. What a sad situation Armstrong and family have to live with entire lives?

E.J. Ellory admitted using fake identities to write about his work on Amazon. He writes glowing reviews for his own books, giving himself five-star ratings and slamming his competitors’ books. Why an author in the caliber of Ellory chose to live like that without any guilty conscience, while simultaneously criticising his rivals? “The earth provides much to satisfy every man’s need but not to satisfy every man’s greed,” great quote from Mahatma Gandhi.

While cheating is fundamental and part of human behavior many will do it. However, wickedness, evil, cheating and every negative activities men apply to enhance careers, would prevail but only for a little while. When the cup is full they shall be exposed.  Whoever thought R J Ellory, one of British leading authors will fake reviews?  The Birmingham based author, whose novels have sold more than a million copies admitted to cheating.

I don’t blame any of these men, for deceive the public. We are in a society many competing against others, so people are desperate to do anything which could take them to the top. We are in a world if one doesn’t come on television or radio; you are seen as nobody. Many feel comfortable with that but others can’t stand it, that’s where the cheating starts.

If people would take some few minutes to think of some wise proverbs and quotes, they would have saved themselves from disgrace. Yes! “God’s time is the best,” wait patiently and work hard for that success. Again, whatever one sows in life, the same he will reap and so whoever knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin. Finally, “You can fool some of the people all of the time, and all of the people some of the time, but you cannot fool all of the people all of the time.” – Abraham Lincoln.

Can Home Cooking Build A Happy Marriage?

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Falling in love is a wonderful and magical experience between two people. The chemistry is strange and sometimes very complicated. The experience differs in many ways but the commonest are happiness, restlessness and strong emotions. However; falling in love doesn’t always guarantee a successful marriage or living together. Frankly speaking, according to statistics many are getting divorce more than getting together.

To build and support successful marriage or relationships, many partners read books written as a guide to happy marriage. Despite hundreds of books counseling couples, lovers are constantly in pain, emotionally and psychologically, affected by painful love affairs. The causes of divorces or separations vary, lack of attention, sex, cheating, quarrels, financial matters and others. However; few things many never thought of as destroyer of marriages is the lack of cooking at home and lack of prevention of early sex in teenage relationship.

Many couples friendship began at school as teenagers before they settled. In principle, it is always good for people to study and know each other very well, before entering into relations or love affairs. But on moral issues entering into relationships as teenagers isn’t a wise thing to do. Children as young as thirteen and fourteen indulged in caressing and kissing. This is seen as normal in advanced countries but in Africa, it is not permitted.

Most of these early relationships end up in separate ways or settling together.When they finally get married, the love isn’t strong as before. That’s where the problems begin. In this case, the marriage doesn’t go far. Why? The reason is simple and logical. Both have seen their nakedness too much as teenagers to the extent that they no longer value their precious bodies as adults. No happiness and the essence of enjoying a happy relationship is completely ruined.

Here the dignity and the worthiness of the woman have been neglected and abused by the man. It is always the man that causes the breakup because he wants something new. Many start to cheat and stayed late at work in illicit love affairs. A woman or man may find the real happiness in life, marriage, living together or in relationships, when they enter into love affairs as adults than as teenagers.

Any man or woman who doesn’t know how to cook before getting into a relationship or marriage may not fully enjoy the relationship. There is always a guarantee for a happy marriage when one of the partners knows how to cook but if both can’t cook means the marriage have a bleak future. Imagine a family depending always on fast food or tin foods. How would a husband feel after a day’s hard work, comes home to sit behind the dining table and be served with can spaghetti, with that marshy tomato sauce? Many enjoy that but that’s health hazard.

A man facing such situation may never be happy. Some may speak against it but many hide the way they feel when upset. Since he can’t live with that any longer he starts to seek his interest in other places. That’s where the cheating starts. If the one he is seeing can’t provide him those delicious meals he is missing from his previous partner, the relationship automatically comes to an end.

It is therefore very essential for both men and women to learn or know how to cook before getting into a relationship or marriage. Getting familiar with cooking isn’t a difficult issue. There are thousands of books and adult schools for cooking. Time factor is always an issue. Many may not have the time to go to a cooking school after work. Here a cooking book is very useful.

Just follow the instructions on how to cook and next thing is the delicious meal on the dining table. You may not be perfect at your first attempt but remember practice makes man perfect. Besides, cultivating the habit of cooking at home saves a lot of money. I am happily married for the past twenty years. When my wife is busy at work, I do the cooking for the children. This is the only way to share the secrets of why our marriage is stronger than ever. I am a very good cook apart from my writing career.

Shake The Dust Off Your Feet And Leave

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When Jesus sent forth his disciples to go and preach the gospel, he told them that “Whoever does not receive you, nor heed your words, as you go out of that house or that city, shake the dust off your feet.” This is a very strong advice we need to apply to our lives, especially in this violent world that people make us feel threatened most of the time.

There are things when broken, it can’t be mend. What’s the need to cry over that spilt milk, when you can’t take it back? I find it difficult to understand why many women caught up in an abusive marriage, still try to salvage that marriage.

That worthless man hits his girlfriend or wife every day. He has subjected her to a punching bag; giving her black eye, swollen face, broken nose, yet she still stays, hoping to save the relationship. My dear sister, that beast doesn’t love you, above all, you are too precious to be treated this way.

Real men don’t hit or abuse women. Please, lady; it’s time to shake off the dust of your feet in that abusive house and leave. One misses water when his well runs dry, thus; he will find out how important you are to him, after your departure. Above all, your qualities as a woman, which your abusive man never appreciates, will give you the love and happiness you deserve elsewhere.

I am a man; I know how it hurts when you love a woman who doesn’t love you. ‘The Jolly Brothers,’ the Jamaican reggae group wrote “When you fall in love, with someone, who doesn’t love you. They use you as, a puppet on a string. Look into yourself my friend, try to get wise and be a conscious one, when you fall in love.

Many men think money can buy love. Well, it may probably buy the love they are looking for. But do you know how stupid you are when in her heart she doesn’t love you but only pretending and enjoying your money? Apart from being a puppet on a string, you also become a laughing stock in the community, because the woman is telling all her friends “I am enjoying the fool’s money.”

It may be likely that she is cheating on you with the man she loves. She is enjoying your money with him. Hard working fellow men, please don’t be in such relationship. Shake the dust off your feet and leave. Not every woman wants a rich man. Some look for certain qualities, such as humbleness, humility, submissiveness, caring, loving and truthful. If you have any of such qualities, you will enjoy a happy relationship.

Life is precious, don’t waste it when you are lucky to live on this earth, in a time many people are committing suicide because they feel it’s meaningless to live. You’ve got the power to change your life positively, to let your light shine ahead of you, for everyone to see how great you are. That is if you shake off the dust off your feet in that stormy relationship and leave.

The Honey Trap

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Once a detective sergeant with the MET, Jonas Brock aims to rebuild his life. Having been investigated and arrested by his colleague, a bright young officer named Donovan Quinn; Jonas served five years in HMP Belmarsh for taking backhanders and protecting prostitutes.

After his release, Jonas becomes a private detective in his hometown of Abbey Wood, and having investigated nothing more than cheating lovers for vulnerable clients, he finally lands the case that he has been waiting for; stolen evidence files for one of the largest fraud cases that the city has ever seen.

With the help of Selena, the young prostitute that he has protected for over ten years, Jonas must put his mistakes behind him and focus his mind on solving crimes once again

The Author

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DJ Priddle was born and brought up the Isle of Wight and studied Music Performance, through the University of Chichester. After finishing education, he spent an ‘idyllic’ 10 years working as a vocalist in various bands, travelling the length and bredth of the United Kingdom. Happening upon the “right place, right time” scenario, DJ was lucky enough to gain work for both the BBC and ITV, singing, acting and performing on children’s television.

Having discussed with a friend his secret love of writing that stemmed back to his imaginative youth, DJ was asked to put together a few short press releases for an independent PR company. With his love of writing, very much out in the open, DJ set about searching for all his old stories. Finding a large tatty box in the roof of his parent’s house, DJ began the lengthy process of sorting and editing. It was not long before he was sat in front of his computer with an idea forming in his head.

Having convinced his wife, Sarah, that this was not just another idea, that would soon be lying malformed in the gutter of his mind, alongside the ‘revolving fish tank’ that he was promising to build, and the Japanese bog garden that up to now is only part designed, DJ dedicated time to the craft, and began to learn the skill of fiction writing.

The Honey Trap, the first novel by DJ Priddle, was an amalgamation of the ideas and characters from his younger mind, a fast-paced pulp fiction story based on many of the films and TV shows that he had enjoyed as a teen. It was this writing journey that persuaded DJ to embrace the dark dystopian themes forming in his mind, and push them out onto the page through the eyes and feelings of Jonas Brock.

DJ says, “As his life, ideas and feelings grow in my mind, Jonas has carved out his own tiny part of my history. His relationships, friends and enemies arrive fully formed, in my mind on a daily basis, making him (if only to me) a moody but memorable detective.”

DJ Priddle continues to perform regularly in bands, and now presents a Sunday morning show on local radio.

My Happy 21st Wedding Anniversary

 

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Marriage is a journey of commitment and sharing of responsibilities

January 1,  2015, marked 21st of our wedding anniversary. On that day, I promised to go forward without looking back, prepared to face the rigors of marriage and settle as a responsible man. Before then finding or choosing the right woman to be my future partner was like a nightmare, taking into consideration the number of people getting the divorce every day after tying the knot.

Yes! It’s very common to see hundreds of couples at wedding ceremonies, particularly on Sundays, making vows and promises to love each other, bringing an entire room to tears. After the wedding or traditional marriage, starts a big celebration together with  family and friends, with the couple full of hopes and dreams, but like the fading sun, many marriages fail to last. Marriages are now characterized by many problems to the extent that many fear of marrying.

As a matter of fact, marriage is a journey not only full of happiness but pain, tragedies, misery, sadness and uncertainty. Even though there are hundreds of articles online and books on how to be the successful couple to enjoy a happy marriage, many marriages end up in separation or divorce. The question is: Why some marriages last forever and others disintegrate?

Seeing my wife gives me happiness

Francisca Savage

There are many reasons leading to the break-up of marriages, but most reasons are not spending enough time together, cheating, allowing bitterness and resentment to overrule the heart, hard to forgive, financial issues and if the man or woman doesn’t know how to cook. Joining together and making vows are very easy but results of some bitter separations and divorces could be disastrous.

Some break-up of marriages has led partners to mental institutions and others after a long time still find it difficult to come to terms with what had happened to them. If children are involved some are badly affected depending how old they are. It is unfortunate that many couples do not recognize the Holy Bible as one of the best books that could guide marriage to happiness. Gen 49:4, Mal 2:14, Matt 23:30, Deut 24:5, Mark 12:23 etc, all speak about marriages.

When I got married I realized that wealth doesn’t guarantee a happy marriage, but faithfulness, respect, fulfilling your commitments and equally sharing responsibilities. I have enjoyed a happy marriage over two decades, knowing that there is more happiness ahead of me, because I have a good wife, who loves and respects me, while I give back the same love and respect to her.

On many occasions when my wife is busy at work and I’m at home, I usually ask her what she would like me to cook. By the time she returns food is ready for her and the children. Taking such responsibility strengthens marriage. I have heard many times men saying, “I’m not stupid to let my woman knows how much I earn.” That’s a big mistake, one of the strongest foundations of marriage is transparency.

When you are a married man, don’t hide anything from your wife. Your wife is the one who can manage your finances very well if there are trust and mutual understanding. Many times, I forget that I have even given her money to keep for me until she reminds me. ‘A woman is like a beautiful flower in the middle of garden and the man is the fence around her.’ Give your wife the respect, love and protection she needs and surely you will also be a happy man.

Marriage means happiness not a burden

Family Savage: At home with Francisca and Little Joe

 

Why It Is Very Easy For Many To Follow Wrong People

As a young boy at school, as stupid and naive most of our school teachers were, we were thought to believe that the White man is nearer to God, the reason they have manufactured planes, ships, guns, rockets and all sophisticated modern comforts to serve the needs of man. I was even forced to believe that the White man is sincere than an African.

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Lance Armstrong

Till now in Africa, Africans don’t trust and many times speak ill against themselves: “Black man, Black sense, A White man would always help you, but a jealous African will always try to pull you down,” statements that have no ample of truth in Europe. God only knows the problems, hate, jealousy and bitter experience I’ve passed through in Belgium, as I struggle to build my career and future as a writer. However, I will always respect and thank all those genuine White people who have helped me build my career in Europe as an author in diverse ways.

I would have been a very famous author with a record of theft, if I had gone to the supermarket to steal bread to eat as a hungry man, because that’s what the media waits to happen but that’s not going to happen until my death. During the Apartheid era in South Africa, “The White man always like to keep the Black man standing at the touchline to watch the game they were playing, because they think they can do everything by themselves,” said the Late Steve Biko, the father of Black Consciousness Movement.

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R J Ellory

If I hadn’t been to Europe, I wouldn’t have known that the White man lies. Everyone has talent and ambition, the question is, if you want the world to know what you have got, how do you go about it? The first White man to do this, the first White man to do that, are all that we often read about. It’s rare to read the first Black man who did this and that. The challenge and burning ambition for many to achieve something positive in the society have led them to cheat, deviating completely from the path of truth.

Today I am going to write about two greatest ‘White Cheats’ in the world. In his professional career as a cyclist Lance Armstrong is now known as the world’s biggest liar. After denying cheating for more than a decade, Armstrong finally gave up his fight against cheating and lies, totally disappointing his fans and followers. Why do people always follow liars and cheats but a truthful person has no follower?

It is always easy for people to follow wrong people, because the followers have no vision. If one has vision, it would be easy to find out or discover a genuine achievement or a false person. I am a writer gradually making my presence felt in the publishing industry, I would therefore like to take another liar from the publishing industry for an example. If you are a writer or author you may know RJ Ellory. He still lives, so I will call him a fantastic liar.

Cheating ‘Bestselling, award-winning’ crime author R.J. Ellory was caught faking Amazon reviews for both his own books and the books of his competitors. Ellory was caught writing fake Amazon reviews by fellow author Jeremy Duns, according to ABC News. Such an act is dubbed “sock-puppeting,” or writing anonymous online reviews praising one’s own work. RJ Ellory sold millions of books under false reviews, while readers without vision acknowledged him as one of the world’s greatest writers.

There are many genuine writers with good stories, because they aren’t cheating, no one knows them or classifies them as good writers or authors. They don’t even have enough followers on Twitter or Facebook, because we are in a world liars and cheats are easily accepted in the society, because they often appear on the television,

“To these four young men God gave knowledge and understanding of all kinds of literature and learning. And Daniel could understand visions and dreams of all kinds. Daniel 1:17. If you lack wisdom, knowledge and vision to identify a cheat ask God for one, if you don’t believe in God, cultivate the talent to identify a genuine person from a false one, before following them, because the disgrace that falls on them, falls on you as well.