My Name Is Savage, But I am Not Savage

Big Joe 5“Whatever happens to me benefits me.” – Joel Savage

Why many do ask me if ‘Savage’ is my real name? Once a British woman told me she hates her name ‘Mrs Ball’ and worst of all, my father’s name is ‘Mr. Underworld,’  she said. Yes, many of us have strange names. Some do change and others keep them.

I was born Joel Savage, at Cape Coast, in the central region of Ghana, on January 19, 1957, to Justin Savage, a professional journalist and Nancy-Elizabeth Hudson, an accomplished seamstress and a sewing teacher.

Last year, during my summer holidays in Barcelona, Spain, I gave one of my books to a student I met at the hotel I lodged. At the computer hall, I was flabbergasted when I saw his friends laughing at my name. I pretended I wasn’t listening to their conversation.

Then on January 1, 2016, history repeats itself. At the Kotoka International Airport in Accra, Ghana, when ready to board my flight, an officer at the last checkpoint controlled my passport and the only question he threw at me is: How do you pronounce this word? Pointing directly to the name, “Savage,” I answered.

“Well, I’m glad that you mentioned it yourself, because I thought that may provoke you if I had said the same thing.” He said and gave back my passport to me.

If names have impact on people, then I am exceptional. I am happily married since 1993 and still live with the same woman. If I’m savage, uncivilized, cruel or a beast, my wife wouldn’t have been with me today. My three sons can stand behind me and tell everyone how caring and compassionate their father is.

What I know about myself is, I have intrepid sort of character. I don’t give up and no one can break me down physically, psychologically, emotionally or spiritually. In my life, I take any misfortune as beneficial and every problem as a challenge, because you can’t survive in this world if you submit to problems.

This is the reason many people are depressed, alcoholics or drug addicts. Because they don’t have the will power to fight and overcome those destructive tendencies. Savage is just a name but it has no influence on me. I believe in God and the Bible is my shield and Armour.

Shake The Dust Off Your Feet And Leave

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When Jesus sent forth his disciples to go and preach the gospel, he told them that “Whoever does not receive you, nor heed your words, as you go out of that house or that city, shake the dust off your feet.” This is a very strong advice we need to apply to our lives, especially in this violent world that people make us feel threatened most of the time.

There are things when broken, it can’t be mend. What’s the need to cry over that spilt milk, when you can’t take it back? I find it difficult to understand why many women caught up in an abusive marriage, still try to salvage that marriage.

That worthless man hits his girlfriend or wife every day. He has subjected her to a punching bag; giving her black eye, swollen face, broken nose, yet she still stays, hoping to save the relationship. My dear sister, that beast doesn’t love you, above all, you are too precious to be treated this way.

Real men don’t hit or abuse women. Please, lady; it’s time to shake off the dust of your feet in that abusive house and leave. One misses water when his well runs dry, thus; he will find out how important you are to him, after your departure. Above all, your qualities as a woman, which your abusive man never appreciates, will give you the love and happiness you deserve elsewhere.

I am a man; I know how it hurts when you love a woman who doesn’t love you. ‘The Jolly Brothers,’ the Jamaican reggae group wrote “When you fall in love, with someone, who doesn’t love you. They use you as, a puppet on a string. Look into yourself my friend, try to get wise and be a conscious one, when you fall in love.

Many men think money can buy love. Well, it may probably buy the love they are looking for. But do you know how stupid you are when in her heart she doesn’t love you but only pretending and enjoying your money? Apart from being a puppet on a string, you also become a laughing stock in the community, because the woman is telling all her friends “I am enjoying the fool’s money.”

It may be likely that she is cheating on you with the man she loves. She is enjoying your money with him. Hard working fellow men, please don’t be in such relationship. Shake the dust off your feet and leave. Not every woman wants a rich man. Some look for certain qualities, such as humbleness, humility, submissiveness, caring, loving and truthful. If you have any of such qualities, you will enjoy a happy relationship.

Life is precious, don’t waste it when you are lucky to live on this earth, in a time many people are committing suicide because they feel it’s meaningless to live. You’ve got the power to change your life positively, to let your light shine ahead of you, for everyone to see how great you are. That is if you shake off the dust off your feet in that stormy relationship and leave.