Online Dating: The Good, The Bad And The Ugly Part Of It

hackerThere are many dangers behind Online Dating one can’t see.

Life can be boring sometimes. Frustration, depression, loneliness, and anxiety, are some of the problems that have taken its toll on many people today, forcing them to ‘Dating Sites,’ hoping that’s the right place to find love and happiness they are looking for. 

The internet has enabled us to see the world through the window, facilitating business, creating easy communication and making friendship easy throughout the globe. But the question is: Is ‘Dating Sites’ actually the right place for someone to look for his or her dream partner? Frankly speaking, dating sites harbored all kinds of dangers many ignore or don’t see because they are simply following their heart’s desire.

I don’t see the distance between two people dating, as one of the disadvantages of online dating if one person lives in Canada and the other lives in England, but the dangers of falling into wrong hands, which have prematurely ended the lives of many and added names of missing people to the missing people’s list.

While on ‘Dating Site,’ your aim is to find a lover, but the man on the other side doesn’t want love, he wants to harm or kill you. How will you know? This is the reason many that answer to online dating, mysteriously disappear without any trace. This makes ‘Dating Sites’ or ‘Blind Date’ more dangerous than imagined.

Once in Amsterdam, I contacted a lady who wants a non-smoker. We made an appointment at the central train station, asking me to be at a very famous point everyone knew. She was late. I watched my time and I realized it was over ten minutes. Then after fifteen minutes, I saw a pretty woman smiling at me. She was gorgeous. Her tall slim figure was the exact choice of a woman I was looking for.

“Are you Joe?” She asked and I nodded.”I have been here already but spying on you to see if you are a handsome man. I really hate ugly and shabbily dressed men.” She said. “What a bad woman? Is that what men or women do to each other on blind-date?” I asked in mind. Now I know the reason many dates end in disappointment. They came and probably saw the person unattractive and quietly sneaked away? Who will be happy when treated like that? In fact, the statement she made ruined my day. After eating and a walk through the city, I didn’t request for a second date. That’s how we lost contact.

There is nothing wrong when doing online dating, but be extremely careful, because what you are looking for might be completely different from what the person you are communicating with wants. There are some recommended steps which can keep one far from loneliness and depression. Reading interesting books as a hobby can capture your imagination to avoid depression and loneliness.

If you love to stay at home, please cultivate the habit of taking a walk through the gardens, doing window shopping, joining social clubs. Going to the gym to exercise once or twice a week doesn’t only keep you fit but also psychologically healthy. Who knows you will meet the right person in those places? You may have a hidden talent but you don’t know. Find out what you are very good at, follow it and start blogging to create your happiness.

 

THE LIEBSTER AWARD

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I have been nominated for the LIEBSTER AWARD! I give thanks to Tammy at https://tammymezera.wordpress.com/    for this prestigious nomination. The significance of the Liebster Award is to discover or recognize new bloggers around the blog-sphere. It’s a great way to welcome and promote their niche in the blogging community.

My nominees are : Erospea at  https://erospea.wordpress.com

2. Skipah’s Realm at http://skipahsrealm.com/the-door-county-experience/

3. Pinuccia at https://elvira513.wordpress.com/2013/05/09/nicchia-da-giardino/

4. Edwina at http://edwinasepisodes.com/

5. Allison Maruska at http://allisonmaruska.com/2015/10/17/does-your-story-need-more-tension-add-a-dash-of-dramatic-irony/

6. Orange Pond Connect at https://orangepondconnects.wordpress.com/

7. Tess M Garfield at https://tessmgarfield.wordpress.com/

8. Kate M Colby at http://katemcolby.com/

9. Leftover Recipes at https://leftoverrecipes.wordpress.com/

10. Tribalmysticstories at http://tribalmystic.me/2015/10/14/story-telling-at-its-best/

Tammy’s Questions

What is your most difficult subject to write about? -Science.

  1. Conversely, what is your favorite subject to write about? –Drug abuse and teenage pregnancy.
  2. Snacks – sweet or savory? -Delicious.
  3. How do you get out of bed in the morning when you don’t feel like doing so? –Force to lift myself up.
  4. How have your life challenges changed you-are you stronger, bitter, a cynic, disillusioned, happier, etc? –Life challenges are lessons which have shaped my life positively.
  5. Weather – 4 seasons or mild all year round? –Some seasons are mild and sometimes severe.
  6. Reading – fiction or non-fiction, e-books or actual books (or “Who has time to read?”)? –I love reading non-fiction books, especially when adventurous or exciting. 
  7. Social Media – fun or necessary evil? –Both have advantage and disadvantage.

My questions to nominees:

  1. If you are to play a significant role to save our decaying society, what would you write about?
  2. If your partner comes home from work very hungry, which easiest and quick food can you make for him/her?
  3. If you are to interview a famous writer, what would you ask him/her?
  4. What do you fear most in your life?
  5. Will you be nervous if invited to speak to an audience for the first time?
  6. What do you hate most in your life?
  7. What inspired you to follow your passion as a writer?
  8. Will you give up writing when you are trying very hard but your book is not selling well?
  9. What do you want to achieve in the next ten years as a writer?
  10. What is the best book you have ever read?

The rules are as stated:

1) Thank the person who nominated you.

2) Display the award.

3) Nominate 10 more bloggers with 10 new questions.

4) Answer the questions that the nominator made.

5) Notify the nominees.

The Essence Of Blog Recognition And Nomination

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(Nominated for both Blogger Recognition and Sunshine Blogger Awards.)

There are thousands of writers and authors but not everyone blogs. In our present society, where by the desire of reading is rapidly declining, you should count yourself a lucky one, when you have followers, readers interested in your blog and others that recognize your blog as good.

Every year, different blog recognition and nomination take place under committee of bloggers to determine the best blog. This gives every blogger the opportunity to compete with other bloggers. If your blog is evaluated and you win, you are honoured or awarded. It’s therefore rewarding and satisfying when you are nominated, even though vote leads to your success of winning.

I have been writing without ceasing, since it’s my passion. At the latter part of this year, I have been nominated twice. I received a mail confirming my nomination for ‘The Blogger Recognition Award’ from the well known author William Chasterson and my second nomination for ‘Sunshine Blogger Award’ by Purpleslobinrecovery, both active bloggers.

I give my sincere thanks to the two great bloggers, for their kindness and recognition for my blog. Nomination doesn’t necessarily mean you’ve won the ‘Trophy,’ since you are competing with other bloggers, but it satisfying to know that there are some followers and people out there who are interested in what you write.

Despite my passion as a writer, I dwell on the support of my followers and readers, because their likes and comments inspire me in certain ways. I learn from each comment and usually creates articles from what they say. I therefore give thanks to my followers and readers that despite how busy engaged to other activities, they still find time to visit my blog.

Social Media Tips: How To Increase Your Text Or Font Size in WordPress

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WordPress is a social platform made easy with essential tools, to make it simple and easy for the blogger and website owners. For example it has ‘Akismet’ anti-spam plugin which stops spam comments and trackbacks. Besides, WordPress has provided ‘Jetpack’ plugin that gives access to hosted features automatically.

I am completely new to WordPress, but because they made it easy and simple for bloggers to enjoy using the platform, I’m getting familiar to many things. Online and on the support platform of WordPress, there are several questions over how to change the font size to make it easy for some readers that find it difficult to read.

I painstakingly followed the instructions to increase the size of the text of the theme I’m using but all were abortive. Just as I was about to give up, I discovered how easy it was. Below is a simplest and easiest way to increase your text.

  • At the top left hand corner of your blog you see ‘My Sites’ at near ‘W’, the logo of WordPress.
  • Point your mouse cursor on it, then comes underneath ‘View Site, WP admin, Stats, Pages, Media, News etc.
  • Under ‘LOOK AND FEEL’ click ‘Customize.’ A customizing window opens with this message ‘You are customizing ……………. (The name of your blog is written there.)
  • Then follows ‘You are customizing …………….(That’s the name of the Theme you are using.)
  • Point your cursor to ‘Customize’ and click. Underneath appears

Custom Design

Site Title and Tagline

Colors and Background

Fonts

Header Image etc.

Click ‘Fonts’ when the window of the fonts widget opens, increase the size of your text the way you want it and then SAVE IT. (Don’t forget to save it. View your blog and you see how large and beautiful your articles are seen.

You Too Can Make Money As A Writer

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Many contact me on LinkedIn’s platform if I could suggest or introduce a website, whereby they can write articles to be paid. As a matter of fact, there are hundreds of websites that accept articles from writers, but most to promote your articles, thus; someone may hire you if interested in you as a writer, but gaining recognition as a writer to be hired doesn’t come easy.

It seems when the mind is occupied with various plans and ideas, we ignore or forget the places where we need to explore to make money online as a blogger or writer. Many bloggers, including me, make money online. Bear in mind, the significance of this article has got nothing to do with pride or to boast, it’s an article revealing how many people can make a lot of money monthly by blogging or writing interesting articles as a hobby.

There is nothing which is impossible in this modern time, especially when the advancement in technology has no limit. There are so many tools to create free blogs without paying a cent. Online are lists of free websites and blog hosts, including Blogger and WordPress, which you can make a lot of money every month, by registering for Adsense.

Google AdSense is a free, simple way for website publishers of all sizes to earn money by displaying targeted Google ads on their websites. Apart from Google AdSense, there are other adverts sources that generate money on blogs, depending on how interesting the blog is and the number of people that visit the blog.

There are many books on this subject, including numerous articles online, but as a writer, I maintain certain principles to make my articles worthy to read and generate my money. You don’t need to go to the university to earn a degree before becoming a blogger. An illiterate can blog in his or her mother tongue if he can’t speak English to generate money on his or her blog.

When one wants to write an article that can easily be accepted by the print media for publication, choose topics like teenage pregnancy, drug abuse, crime or any other social problems affecting the society to write about. The print media don’t like them but love them.

Choose good titles for your articles and when writing, let readers know the effect of the chosen subject you are writing about. You could even suggest how the government should tackle the problem by reducing or permanently eradicating it.

Don’t try to impress the publisher by writing long articles; else the article may lose its significance. Let your article be short, with all the ingredients that make it interesting to read. You will be happy to sit by your dining table reading your own written article or getting paid for the customers your blog attracts.