Burka: a symbol of woman abuse, ignorance or prisoner of Islam?
Salia is a Muslim woman and a colleague at work. Unlike many women, she has a different attitude and approach towards her religion. She prays five times daily and does Ramadan every year like every Muslim. But she doesn’t strictly follow Islamic dress codes, such as wearing head covers, signifying principle of modesty.
Salia always tells me how she hates the domination of women by Muslim men. “I respect the Koran, but many Muslims don’t do what the Koran says. Mis-interpretation of the book has caused violence and wickedness among mankind. Every Muslim tries to convince the world that Islam means peace, but they have made the religion the most violent one,” says Salia.
“Not every Muslim is a terrorist, but because of their violent nature, every Muslim is seen as a terrorist,” Aida further stressed. In her early forties, getting married to a Muslim man has been her biggest challenge. “Their violent, abusive and dominant nature puts me off to consider marrying any of them,” said Salia.
This reminds of a similar thing a Moroccan woman married to a Jamaican, told me couple of years ago. “Over my dead body to marry a Muslim man,” she said. Today Amina is happily married to her Christian husband and raising two beautiful twin sisters in Antwerp.
Despite all her fears, Salia’s mother who died just last year assured her to come over to Morocco to see a man she has found for her. Thus; three years ago, she proceeded to Morocco and got married. The man knows that Salia doesn’t cover up her head, yet he married her without any question, because he is coming to Europe.
After their marriage, Salia successfully brought her husband to live in her apartment. Just a month after coming to Belgium, troubles started brewing between her and the husband. Her man is now asking her to cover up her head, but Salia refused on the grounds that he told him she doesn’t use head covers.
This problem escalated to series of arguments and continuous quarrels at home, without any solution. Meanwhile, Salia is pregnant in such a center of misunderstanding and unfriendly atmosphere between her and the man, who knew who she was and now violently wants her to change her lifestyle. What happened next is very disturbing. When Salia was entering her car to work, she met her neighbours she’s been staying with them for over more than four years and she greets them.
Her husband took it as offence, because Salia has greeted Non-Muslims who are Catholics or ‘infidels’ as Muslims call them. Salia thought she has had enough. She threw her husband outside and he left. At the age of forty-four she delivered her first child. The baby is now a year old, doing fine with her single mother.
How comfortable are they in such clothes all in the name of Islam?